Millionaire Mindcast The Secrets To Becoming A Legendary Dad & Husband | Larry Hagner
In this episode of the Millionaire Mindcast, Larry Hagner shares great stuff about building and living intentionally in the area of relationships, the importance of being ego-free & planning. He also shares his secrets on how to be a legendary dad and a husband!
Larry Hagner is the host and creator of the Dad’s Edge Podcast (formerly The Good Dad Project Podcast), featured as one of the top podcasts on iTunes. Its mission is to give you resources to help you be the best you can be so you can enjoy the journey of fatherhood, dad and parenting. He authored the books, “The Dad’s Edge”, and “Daddy Will Always Love and Protect You”.
Larry is also a dynamic speaker who has spoken for several churches, men’s groups, women’s groups, and couples with outstanding reviews.
This guy grew up without a “father-figure” which store up future problems with patience when he became a father. He thinks he’s the only one struggling with it, and work-life balance. Didn’t know how to handle his kids, spanks them so hard, not showing up his marriage very well, and got all his validation from work. But Larry realized, he’s doing exactly what he said he’s not going to do. He surrendered his ego and learned from his mistakes.
On the plus side, he considered himself as a project, a dad that needs help. He wanted to learn one thing whether that be better at marriage, better at his kids, more patience, better health, and business. Everything follows that later, he started speaking on group events.
Larry explains the importance of investing in yourself and in your health, having constant growth, and being open to learning, be humble and ego-free. According to him, it’s really the ego that gets on the way that we can have these amazing relationships. Surrender yourself to create an epic, rich, and fulfilling relationship. Never forget to keep the communication open to understanding what you value, create time in your relationships, time with kids, creating lasting memories with kids and your partner.
Plan everything and know exactly what you need to do.
Some Questions I Ask:
- What inspired you to want to take relationship area of your life to the next level? (01:59)
- What it that look like of that transition or transformation of yourself? (07:01)
- Did you feel like you’re alone in the beginning? (09:31)
- What are some of the biggest things that you’ve seen people struggle with that can be easily fixed or overcome? (10:21)
- What are the ingredients for married couples to stay together, thriving, and living happily relationships? (14:45)
- What are some of the pitfalls that tied with money and relationships? (19:14)
- How do you and your wife approach to wealth building and money? 21:07)
- What are those things or influences that you see destroy marriages or hampering rich relationships? (26:54)
- How do you continuing to optimize yourself? (29:48)
- How do you recommend people in order to keep their relationships a priority and not feel guilty? (35:09)
- What makes you a legendary dad & husband? (38:57)
- What do you think is the next thing that’s going to allow you to take yourself to the next level that you’ve been focusing on? (46:54)
In his Episode, You Will Learn:
- Larry’s dark moments in the area of relationships with his kids and wife. (05:36)
- The good dad project idea. (07:26)
- One important quote that he learned at a summit. (10:41)
- Common struggles of men. (11:30)
- Why it’s important to be an aggressive saver and investor. (22:23)
- Why people are always chasing money, but they’re not chasing money. (23:39)
- One exercise that people should do. (24:23)
- The 5 dimensions that circling the men’s mind all the time. (28:49)
- Things that ruin the journey as a father. (32:10)
- “I no longer say NO”. (33:22)
- The benefits of plan & taking time to plan. (36:02)
- Four pillars of legendary marriage. (40:52)
Quotes:
- “I got tired of being a moron.”
- “I want to be more for my kids.”
- “I just surrendered my ego.”
- “I’m going to learn.”
- “I’m just going to be better.”
- “Your struggles become your gifts, & your gifts become your superpower.”
- “If you’re struggling with something, there’s incredible hope for you.”
- “No one wants 50% of you.”
- “Attention to her is love.”
- “You gotta keep it simple.”
- “Always be a student, be humble and ego-free.”
- “We are aggressive savers.”
- “We are aggressively investing.”
- “Money is scarcity and not abundance.”
- “People are always chasing money, but they’re not chasing money.”
- “The more money I have, the more time that I will have.”
- “We really really value experiences.”
- “It’s our ego that constantly protects us.”
- “We all have different strengths, we all have different gifts.”
- “If you want to be a millionaire you got to hang out with billionaires.”
- “You’ve got to follow that path of success were those people that have gifts like that.”
- “Life is not always going to be amazing.”
- “I’m a student still.”
- “Kids spell love, T-I-M-E.”
- “We can do it all.”
- “Stop saying we should and let’s just do it.”
- “You’ve got to take the time to plan.”
- “If it doesn’t in my calendar, it doesn’t exist.”
- “If I’m not my best me, I’m not going to be the best me for you.”
- “The quality of your life depends on the quality of the questions you asked yourself & to others.”
- “Look at people relationships through the eyes of appreciation, not expectation.”
- “View every interaction with genuine and curiosity.”
- “Just because I'm the dad that doesn’t mean I’m right.”
- “You don’t have to be flawless & you can demonstrate humility.”
Resources Mentioned:
- The 5 Love Languages book by Gary Chapman
- Miracle Morning for Couples book by Hal Elrod, Lance Salazar, Brandy Salazar, Honoree Corder