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Could A.I. find you a spouse? Maiden Mother Matriarch 176

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Dec 14, 2025

Geoffrey Miller, an evolutionary psychologist and Chief Science Advisor at Keeper, dives into the fascinating world of AI matchmaking. He discusses how decades of research can enhance dating strategies and the unique approach of his platform focused on marriage-minded individuals. Geoffrey breaks down the importance of intelligence, personality traits, and even parental involvement in finding the right partner. He also warns about the potential risks of AI in relationships, including unrealistic expectations and its impact on fertility. A thought-provoking conversation on modern love!

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INSIGHT

Science Can Improve Matchmaking

Geoffrey Miller argues decades of research can inform matchmaking beyond intuition by analysing stated preferences, speed-dating and app data.
He believes AI can integrate these data to predict long-term romantic chemistry for marriage-focused matching.

ADVICE

Prioritise Long-Term Predictors

Keeper nudges users to prioritise traits that predict long-term marital stability, not transient virtue-signalling.
It warns that tightening filters shrinks your pool and encourages trade-offs on less essential attributes.

ADVICE

Drop Overly Narrow Height Rules

Broaden superficial filters like 'must be over six foot' to avoid eliminating most potential partners.
Consider whether small differences truly matter for long-term compatibility before excluding people.

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I know that there are many people listening to this podcast right now who truly and sincerely want to get married, but can't find the right person. They've done the usual things – they've tried the apps, they've tried going to church, they've asked their friends to set them up. These strategies aren't futile – we all know plenty of people who met their spouses in this way – but they're not a guarantee, either.

If we've learnt anything from the social experiment of the sexual revolution, it's that matchmaking is a difficult coordination problem. Earlier this year, I interviewed Christiana Maxion, a professional matchmaker who takes a very intuitive approach to her work. Today, I'm joined by someone who comes at the problem in a very different way.

Geoffrey Miller is an evolutionary psychologist, an Associate Professor of Psychology at the University of New Mexico, and the author of books including 'The Mating Mind' (2001) and 'Mating Intelligence' (2008). He's also the Chief Science Advisor to a dating platform that claims to be able to match people based on A.I. analysis of reams of data. Things like IQ tests, personality tests, and demographic factors like age and socioeconomic status. Geoffrey believes that this non-intuitive approach to matchmaking is the way to bring happy couples together.

Today we speak about the science, and also the issue of expectations. What is it reasonable to want in a spouse? How can single people set themselves up to win in the marriage market? And what role should we give to other people – parents or siblings, for instance – in the process of matchmaking?

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