Jealousy happens—even to this jealousy expert! But when your partner is experiencing jealousy, it can feel overwhelming and confusing. Without the right tools, it can quickly spiral into disconnection, shame, or control dynamics that damage the relationship. But is it possible to respond without abandoning yourself or falling into problematic patterns?

The truth is, you can help your partner through a moment of jealousy–as long as you have the right tools. And in this episode, we’re giving them to you.

We’re breaking down:

— Why we need to normalize feeling jealousy rather than stigmatizing it

— The difference between jealousy, envy, and insecurity (they're not the same!)

— How to recognize your habitual responses when your partner experiences jealousy

— The importance of regulating yourself first before responding to your partner's jealousy

— Practical ways to signal safety without taking responsibility for your partner's emotions

— Why shame and defensiveness create disconnection during jealous moments

— The power of reflective empathy and how to practice it effectively

— Why asking your partner to feel compersion instead of jealousy is counterproductive

— How to recognize when jealousy becomes an unconscious control mechanism in relationships

— The four steps of the Jealousy Roadmap

— Why these challenging moments can actually build intimacy when handled with care

Resources mentioned in this episode:

— The Befriending Jealousy Workshop

— Joli’s interview on Girl Boner Radio

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