Fatigued Spouses Puzzled Partners with Adam Lane Smith

Nov 27, 2023

Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, discusses the impact of attachment on relationships and marriages. They explore their personal backgrounds and the prevalence of attachment issues. They highlight the importance of trust and recognize warning signs in marriages. They also emphasize the significance of models, skills, and real-life experiences in transforming relationships. They discuss different types of people in personal improvement and relationships. They challenge perceptions and beliefs about relationships and recommend an attachment bootcamp video course. They highlight the importance of using 'I statements' and taking ownership in relationships.

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Introduction

00:00 • 2min

Creating leaders of men, families, and communities: Insights on marriage dynamics and permanent change for growth and happiness

01:38 • 4min

Attachment and Its Impact on Relationships

05:55 • 19min

Levels of Trust and Attachment Styles

25:13 • 10min

Transforming Relationships through Models, Skills, and Experiences

35:12 • 5min

3 Types of People in Personal Improvement and Relationships

40:31 • 15min

Challenging Perceptions and Improving Relationships

55:22 • 6min

Using 'I Statements' and Taking Ownership in Relationships

01:01:04 • 4min

Adam Lane Smith is “The Attachment Specialist”, helping people heal, connect, and build relationships. Leveraging years of professional experience as a licensed psychotherapist, he has honed his craft as a highly sought-after Attachment Specialist and personal coach. He has helped people from a variety of lifestyles, from blue collar families with marital troubles to millionaire CEOs looking for dating help, or anyone looking to fix their dating life, marriage, or overall health of all relationships.

In this episode, Larry Hagner and guest Adam Lane Smith discuss the topic of attachment and its impact on relationships and marriages. They delve into their personal backgrounds and how their upbringing shaped their attachment styles. They also highlight the prevalence of attachment issues in today's society, with research showing that a significant majority of adults in America struggle with attachment.

Attachment shapes our relationships in profound ways. It is the way we connect with other human beings, giving and receiving love. Our attachment style is learned from our caregivers, primarily our parents, and it forms the foundation for how we relate to others throughout our lives.

Adam Lane Smith further explains that attachment issues can stem from various factors, including neglect, abuse, absent parents, or inconsistent caregiving. When children experience these adverse circumstances, their brains often internalize the belief that something is wrong with them or with others. This belief shapes their attachment style and influences how they connect with others.

Recognizing and understanding our attachment style is crucial for personal growth and building healthier relationships. Therapy and self-reflection can help individuals address and heal from attachment wounds. By gaining insight into our attachment patterns, we can work towards developing more secure and fulfilling connections with others.