Securely Attached Q&A: Is it normal for my child to keep asking about death?
Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...
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Whether it’s developmentally normal for kids to start asking about death—even when there hasn’t been a recent loss.
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How much our own histories with grief, trauma, and cultural beliefs shape the way we respond when those questions come up.
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Why using euphemisms like “went to sleep forever” or unclear statements like "passed away" may actually create more anxiety for children instead of comfort.
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How to find the balance between honesty and reassurance when the questions feel bigger than the answers.
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Why kids sometimes ask the same hard questions over and over—and what they might really be seeking.
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What to make of it when a child doesn't seem to feel the weight and seriousness of death.
If your child has ever asked “Are you going to die?” and left you speechless, this episode offers perspective, validation, and concrete tools to help you navigate these profound conversations with calm and compassion.
REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:
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ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:
🎧 Listen to Part 1 and Part 2 of my podcast episodes about navigating conversations about death with Rabbi Steve Leder
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about processing death with death doula Heather Hogan
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about supporting a grieving child with Dr. Dan Wolfson Y
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