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Jan 18, 2024

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In this episode of The A to Z English Podcast, Xochitl and Jack share some of their regrets.

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00:00:01

Jack

Welcome to the A to Z English podcast. My name is Jack and I'm here with my co-host social. And today we have a topic talk topic talk episode for you and the topic of today's talk is regrets and such. I'm just wondering, do you have is there anything that you like, any big regrets that you have?

00:00:22

Jack

You know, as far as like maybe not pursuing something that you had a talent for or being afraid to do something and and you know just kind of thinking back and regretting it.

00:00:34

Xochitl

Yeah, I personally think as far as pursuing.

00:00:38

Xochitl

Like career options and things I used to kind of regret not pursuing music when I was younger, but then I realized that I'm only 27 and essentially if you're a musician and you're actually talented you there's you don't have like, an expiration date for creating music. And I think opportunities.

00:00:48

Jack

You're very, you know.

00:00:59

Xochitl

On your way, when you're ready.

00:01:01

Xochitl

And you're when you're ready to take.

00:01:03

Xochitl

Those opportunities, that's when.

00:01:07

Xochitl

You can make something of it.

00:01:09

Xochitl

So I don't really have any regrets.

00:01:13

Xochitl

In that facet.

00:01:15

발표자

Uh, I have.

00:01:17

Xochitl

I have two.

00:01:20

Xochitl

Regrets that I would say.

00:01:23

Xochitl

11 I'm not this one sounds very depressing.

00:01:27

Xochitl

But it's really it's.

00:01:28

Xochitl

Really not. I I'm not hurt by it.

00:01:31

Xochitl

Or anything. I just. I wish I had gotten to see my grandfather one last time.

00:01:34

Xochitl

Before he passed.

00:01:37

Xochitl

UM, but he was so kind of far gone because he had pretty severe dementia at that point, and I think I just learned from the experience, you know, make the most of the people you care about while they're in your life because you just never know.

00:01:54

Xochitl

When someone can pass away or you never know when they'll still be alive, but they'll be so affected by dementia or health condition or something that you won't be able to relate to them the same way that you used to.

00:02:07

Xochitl

And in your own.

00:02:07

발표자

Right.

00:02:07

Xochitl

Life also like.

00:02:08

Xochitl

Don't wait to do anything because you just health is never guaranteed.

00:02:14

Jack

Right, absolutely.

00:02:15

Xochitl

UM, so I learned a lot from it and I'm not, you know, deeply hurt by it anymore. But I just wish that I could have seen him one.

00:02:23

Xochitl

Last time before he passed.

00:02:25

Xochitl

UM and the other regret that I have this one, like probably a little personal for the podcast, but I don't mind sharing it because I think in my inspire other people to get the help they need.

00:02:36

Xochitl

I I just started taking antidepressants like a month ago, and I so wish I had taken antidepressants years ago. I think this is one of the things where it's like when you're not ready, it won't really matter anyway, so it's OK. It's OK that I waited so long to take them.

00:02:56

Jack

But I think.

00:02:57

Xochitl

For other people who are on the fence and I have really bad health anxiety and stuff, and I'm scared of the side effects, I think for anyone else who's on the fence and really terrified of side effects of getting.

00:03:07

Xochitl

Help for their mental health, I would say.

00:03:11

Xochitl

Just do it because.

00:03:13

Xochitl

I have friends who got help when they were much younger. Well, we're still all young, but just years ago and they're in a better place now and I'm kind of just now getting.

00:03:24

Xochitl

To the place.

00:03:24

Xochitl

Where they're at because I.

00:03:26

Xochitl

Just now started getting help, so it's kind of that's one thing that I would say.

00:03:32

Xochitl

I don't particularly regret it because I don't think.

00:03:35

Xochitl

I was ready.

00:03:35

Xochitl

At the time, but I wish maybe I had.

00:03:38

Xochitl

Just tried it sooner.

00:03:39

Jack

Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, I I, I'll share my story. I've been on antidepressants for.

00:03:49

Jack

10 years since I was 291516 years. So for anxiety and panic attacks. So and I. You know, I don't regret that because I got help right away. You know I didn't wait. I was like alright, I need to.

00:04:08

Jack

Deal with this.

00:04:09

Jack

Like I'm I'm not gonna be ashamed of it. Even though in Korea, you know, it's something.

00:04:18

Jack

That you're supposed.

00:04:19

Jack

And people used to be more ashamed of. Now it's it's becoming much more open. Yeah, people are. It's OK.

00:04:22

발표자

Please signify.

00:04:25

Jack

To talk about it now in Korea, but.

00:04:27

Jack

Ten years ago, 15 years ago.

00:04:29

Jack

You kept it to yourself. You know, you definitely didn't share it on a podcast, you know? But but I think it's it's never. It's never a bad thing to ask for help to get some help. You know, it's a tough it's tough out there.

00:04:48

Jack

So, so, so good for you for, you know, like. But I don't think you need to regret, you know, doing it earlier. I think maybe you were you were you do it when you're ready.

00:04:58

Jack

You know, so.

00:04:59

Xochitl

Yeah. I think for June.

00:05:01

Jack

Yeah, uhm, my regrets. I you know, I I try not to regret too much. I try.

00:05:07

Jack

Not to ruminate.

00:05:09

Jack

I think that that can also affect.

00:05:11

Jack

Your your current mental.

00:05:12

Jack

Health but.

00:05:13

Xochitl

It's just toxic.

00:05:14

Xochitl

To roommate for your own mental health, yeah.

00:05:16

Jack

Exactly. Exactly. And.

00:05:17

Jack

But but I I'm not, you know.

00:05:19

Jack

We're, we brought this topic up.

00:05:21

Jack

So that we could ruminate.

00:05:22

Jack

You know.

00:05:23

발표자

Right.

00:05:24

Jack

But but but I'm I'm trying to think of some examples of things that I would I would change and I think like one of the things I.

00:05:32

Jack

Would change is music.

00:05:34

Jack

I would have started playing the guitar when I was younger and I would have taken like proper lessons and I I I wonder just in the back of my mind like how how good I could have been if I'd have actually put in the the work and the time learning the basics with the with the proper teacher.

00:05:55

Jack

And I just, I don't know why I.

00:05:57

Jack

Was just wasting my.

00:05:58

Jack

Time. You know, sitting there basically like, you know, throwing a ball against the wall in my bedroom for hours. You know, when I could have been bettering myself. So, you know, I, I I wonder about those things. The other regret that I have is I regret.

00:06:19

Jack

Wasting so much time at the pub, you know, going to the bars in my 20.

00:06:24

Jack

I probably spent a decade of my life just sitting around and, you know, hanging out with the guys, drinking some beer and just wasting time. And it wasn't until I, you know, got married and and kind of got serious where I started.

00:06:45

Jack

You know, lots of good things started happening to me. I went back to school, I got a Masters degree. I was.

00:06:50

Jack

Writing course books.

00:06:52

Jack

I was, you know, all these these really amazing things started to happen to me, and it all became because I I got out of that habit of just going, you know, spending every weekend, you know, at the pub so.

00:07:08

Jack

I think those are my big regrets.

00:07:09

Jack

Just wasting time, you know? Time lost.

00:07:13

Jack

But like you.

00:07:14

Jack

Said, you know, there's, it's never too late to.

00:07:16

Jack

To to to, you know, to go take a guitar lesson even when you're 47 years old. Like, why? Why? Why should that prevent me from doing it? So I think I have to kind of think of it that way.

00:07:29

Xochitl

On building a scale and there's no time limit on being a musician. Truly.

00:07:35

Xochitl

You can create music for your whole life, so if you want to go back and and take a guitar lesson or whatever, just do it. And I don't think that it's it's too late by any means and the IT to build the skill. It's just a hobby and you'll have a little more time now because your daughter is going to be moving on to College in a few years.

00:07:57

Xochitl

UM and.

00:08:00

Xochitl

That just gives you some time to work on some hobbies and stuff that maybe you didn't.

00:08:03

Xochitl

Quite have before.

00:08:05

Jack

Yeah. Yeah, that's right. That's right.

00:08:07

Xochitl

Yes. And then?

00:08:09

Xochitl

Yeah. You're gonna be an empty nester. So gotta get.

00:08:11

Xochitl

Into the.

00:08:12

Xochitl

Gotta pick up some hobbies now.

00:08:14

Jack

Yeah, well, podcasting is my hobby. Yeah.

00:08:17

Xochitl

That's true. Another.

00:08:18

Xochitl

Hobby, though, on top of the testing because podcasting.

00:08:21

Xochitl

Is like a work pretty much for you, it's.

00:08:24

Xochitl

Fun but you.

00:08:25

Xochitl

Do you do put a lot of work?

00:08:25

Jack

Job a jobby we call it.

00:08:27

Jack

A jobby.

00:08:28

Xochitl

Yeah, it is a.

00:08:28

Xochitl

Dobby for you, that's a funny word.

00:08:32

Xochitl

And the other thing that you regret, I don't think you should regret spending a decade in pubs with Your Bros. That's kind of what your 20s are for. Yeah, when you got married and you stepped up to the plate as a married man and everything.

00:08:48

Xochitl

Things went a certain way professionally because you're ready for that to.

00:08:51

Xochitl

Happen then you're ready to take on the responsibility of being married and.

00:08:55

Xochitl

All of those.

00:08:55

Xochitl

Things, and I think that that's a great thing, but I don't think you should regret.

00:08:59

Jack

Yeah, I I did have good times. Yeah, but.

00:09:01

Xochitl

You need to get there.

00:09:04

Jack

I I guess it it would be much.

00:09:05

Jack

Worse, if I were still, you know, if I'd had done 30s and 40s in the pub as well, you know then.

00:09:10

Xochitl

Yeah, that wouldn't.

00:09:11

Xochitl

Be great. I mean, if you were still. Yeah, that's a waste of lifetime. It's not like. Yeah, so, you know. Yeah, I I wouldn't regret that now because it's like a it's an essential part of your 20s to go out and.

00:09:11

Jack

That's a wasted life plans.

00:09:23

Xochitl

Have I I?

00:09:24

Xochitl

Believe that if you hadn't had some like that in your 20s, you would regret it now more than if you had had fun.

00:09:30

Jack

That's true. Found it just, you know, been just a workaholic in in my 20s and.

00:09:35

Jack

And I I don't know. Yeah, I I I wonder, you know, it's just like it's such a I was such a different person. Like I'm I'm so unrecognizable from my 20s to my 40s.

00:09:46

Xochitl

Well, that's a good thing to hear because.

00:09:48

Xochitl

It means there's.

00:09:48

Xochitl

Like a lot.

00:09:49

Xochitl

Of hopefully a lot of good things.

00:09:51

Xochitl

In the future yet.

00:09:52

Xochitl

To come for.

00:09:53

Jack

Oh yeah, yeah. The best is coming, right. You, you, you you really blossom when you you hit your 30s. You know, it's like when you.

00:09:58

Jack

Find your stride.

00:10:00

Jack

You know, 20s is still about a time of figuring things out, so you don't need it.

00:10:05

Xochitl

Can't wait.

00:10:05

Jack

All you know, buttoned up and in your 20s.

00:10:11

Xochitl

All right, listeners, let us know, do you have any regrets? And they don't have to be big or painful stories like you can share those. But even just simple regrets, let us know in the comments at AZ englishpodcast.com and a comment down below. Let us shoot us.

00:10:25

Xochitl

An e-mail at AZ.

00:10:27

Xochitl

Englishpodcast@gmail.com and join our.

00:10:29

Xochitl

We chat or WhatsApp.

00:10:30

Xochitl

Whoops, to join the conversations, we will see you guys next.