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Games We Play, Part 3: The Comparison Game // Samer Massad

Jul 21, 2024
Samer Massad, a guest speaker and expert on personal growth, discusses the pervasive issues of comparison and envy. He highlights how these feelings can undermine relationships and self-worth from childhood to adulthood. Samer emphasizes the importance of cultivating gratitude and finding joy in what we have, rather than chasing an endless comparison game. Through personal stories, he illustrates how overcoming envy can mend friendships and foster deeper connections. Listeners are encouraged to adopt a 'one handful mentality' to embrace contentment.
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  • Engaging in the comparison game breeds envy and inadequacy, ultimately harming relationships as individuals prioritize winning over connection.
  • Fostering personal growth and gratitude is essential to counteract the toxic effects of comparison, promoting healthier relationships and greater contentment.

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The Nature of Competition in Games

Games are often played with the primary objective of winning, which can lead to an overly competitive mindset. The speaker shares a personal experience of trying to mislead an intern during a team game, emphasizing that winning took precedence over healthy interaction. This highlights a broader theme of competition and the games people play in life, particularly in relationships, where the implications of winning and losing can be significant. In relationships, if one person wins, it often comes at the expense of the relationship itself, leading to regrets and the need for damage control.

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