#28 - Conflicted - Book Summary

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Sorry its taken us so long to upload another book summary, you know how it is, exam season, summer, and all these endless bank holidays. 

But no need to worry, we’re back and looking to stay on track.

To start you off we’ve summarised Conflicted by Ian Leslie which takes a refreshing new view of arguing, stating that we need to argue and have conflict now and then as it helps to bring us closer together, inspire us, and even improve our intelligence. 

The book is split into two key sections, why we should argue, and the nine rules of arguing productively. Jes and I touch on each one of these points throughout the episode, elaborating on them and drawing parallels with previous books we’ve read. 

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Our next book is ‘Influence’ by Robert Cialdini, a real classic amongst communication books, so make sure to stay tuned for that. But until then, have a good one. 

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Chapters:
00:00:00-Intro
00:01:00-PART 1: Why We Argue
00:02:16-High and Low Context Environments
00:04:17-Social Media and Arguments
00:09:10-GIFS, Memes and Emojis
00:22:55-Culture and Arguments
00:28:00-Opposing Viewpoints (Synergy)
00:37:49-Strangers, Friends, and Family
00:42:45-Media and Arguments
00:45:07-Levels of Arguing (Content and Relationship)
00:48:45-Challenge vs Threat
00:52:33-The Evolution of Reason
00:55:20-PART TWO: How To Argue - Nine Rules of Productive Arguing
00:55:22-Rule 1: First, Connect
00:58:50-Rule 2: Let Go of the Rope
01:01:19-Rule 3: Give Face
01:03:08-Rule 4: Check Your Weirdness
01:06:02-Rule 5: Be Curious
01:08:28-Rule 6: Make Wrong Strong
01:11:49-Rule 7: Disrupt the Script
01:14:22-Rule 8: Share Constraints
01:16:02-Rule 9: Only Get Mad on Purpose
01:20:00-Golden Rule: Be Real
01:21:00-Principles
01:28:14-Techniques
01:34:21-Summary
 
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