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Why 'Assholes' Can Be Attractive
- Women respond to 'assholes' because they signal confidence, bravery, and social success rather than simple rudeness.
- Counter-signaling shows fitness: if you can break norms and still be liked, that signals high status.
The Commitment-Change Fantasy
- Women also fantasize about highly sought men who won't commit but change for them, which boosts attraction.
- That narrative makes 'asshole' figures appealing as a challenge and validation of her worth.
Who Actually Responds To Abuse
- A minority (≈5–20%) of women with emotional issues may be attracted to being treated poorly because it matches their internal models.
- Most women will dislike outright abuse; visible success plus selective assholery is what draws attention.