A provocative title for a disturbing, confronting and difficult topic. After the publication and dissemination of the Respect, Now, Always Report by Universities Australia, and also the emergence of the #metoo movement, how are relationships between students and staff managed in our universities? How are borders around behaviours, roles and emotions created? How can compassionate and kind supervision emerge, while being aware of the parameters of transgression? Tara and Jamie discuss this complex and important issue.