Premature Story Telling - Dave Woodward - FHR #303

Why Dave Decided to Talk About Premature Story-Telling:

Dave recently learned the hard way the importance of preface to an emotionally charged gift. Long-story short, he was a little too excited about his 25th anniversary gift. From this experience though he thought about the importance of preface and build-up to a sale or proposal. Listen in for some great insights on attaching emotion to your sales and do Dave a favor, learn from his premature gift giving experience.

Tips and Tricks for You and Your Business:

(4:52) Building Up to a Proposal, In Marriage and Business

(9:04) Would You Give an Emotionally Charged Gift Without a Build-Up? Then Why Would You Give an Emotionally Charged Pitch Without One?

(10:24) Allowing Your Customers to Feel

Quotable Moments:

(6:06) “It’s not the jewelry that mattered, it was what the jewelry represented. And I see the same thing take place so many times in storytelling.”

(8:04) “It’s not the stats, it’s not the data that matters, it’s the emotion that’s with it.”

Other Tidbits:

Dave can’t get gifts without wanting to give them immediately.

Gifts don’t have nearly as much of value.

If anybody has the invention of a Reset Button in the works, Dave would definitely get his use of out of it.

Important Episode Links:

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Speaker 1:     00:00         Welcome to funnel hacker radio podcast, where we go behind the scenes and uncover the tactics and strategies top entrepreneurs are using to make more sales, dominate their markets, and how you can get those same results. Here's your host, Dave Woodward. Everybody. The holiday season. This is a crazy time of year and one of the things I cannot handle his gifts, not receiving gifts. It's giving gifts and not in a bad way. My promise. I get so excited when I have a gift for my wife. I can't wait till Christmas to give it to her. And so I have this problem as far as premature gift giving. And I see the same thing happen at times in premature storyteller. That's, that's really what I want to spend some time talk to you guys about today.

Speaker 1:     00:45         Alright, so yesterday, uh, let me back up here. So November ninth is my wedding anniversary with my wife. So for my wedding anniversary was 25 years and I'm. So I was so excited and we actually decided to celebrate earlier in the year. We went to Paris after our trip to Africa and just had a great. That was our way of kind of celebrating, but on our actual anniversary day we're spending time together and I thought, you know, I want to do something else to, to so she can remember like longterm and every five years in the past when I had, I would always buy her a piece of jewelry, so like five at five, 50 anniversary, 10th, 15th, 20th and 25 here. And I was sitting there thinking, what can I get? And she really didn't like Dave. We went to Paris, I to spend a whole bunch of money on this right now I know we don't need to do anything and so I thought, you know what, I'm going to surprise her.

Speaker 1:     01:36         And so I decided to get her some, some earrings and diamond earrings. And so I had him all designed and, and, and I was, my problem was I, I knew they were, they wouldn't be done in time for our anniversary, so it actually took some time and I got them yesterday and I said, okay, I'll give it to her for Christmas. And I thought, oh my gosh, my problem is that it was like literally burning a hole in my pocket. And so we got home and yesterday was absolutely just crazy. My, my two boys and my mom and my daughter in law, they've all come in. Everyone's getting ready for the holidays. Things are crazy around the house. Uh, there, his kids were going everywhere just trying to get things done. My wife's super busy, just getting ready for the holidays. We had a special thing happened last night at our house.

Speaker 1:     02:22         My daughter in law, French, he's from Chile and she'd just gotten her, uh, her papers basis and she could become a citizen here in the U, s. and so we had a party for her last night that my wife was putting together. So all this crazy stuff is going on. We had a click party yesterday and I still wanted to. I still had these stupid earrings in my pocket. They're burning a hole and I'm like, I just have to find some way of getting into. I can't wait. I can't wait. And so I just said, hey sweetie. No, I've got a gift I want to give you. She goes, Dave, can we just do this later? I might. Sure, sure, no problem. I can. We can do that. And I'm like, you know what sweet is. I'd rather not wait till Christmas. She's like, you know, Dave, let's just do it later.

Speaker 1:     02:59         I said, okay, okay, fine. We'll do that later and she's busy. We got dinner going, we've got everything set for Fran and for her big celebration and my wife has got all the things upcoming to Christmas. I mean we're like today's the 20th or 21st four days away. She is just stressed out of her mind and is trying to get Christmas presents wrapped. She called me in the other room and she's like, Dave, listen, I don't know what we're going to do here. I've got certain gifts for one of the boys and I don't feel like I've got the equal amount. I'm like, sweetie, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. As far as equal amounts of stuff. She goes, well, no, I just want them to have the same number of gifts and I don't know if you've ever felt that anxiety of around the holidays where you're like, you don't what the stress of the holidays.

Speaker 1:     03:43         It's too much. This is not supposed to be this way. It's supposed to be an exciting time, a happy time and all the stress is driving me crazy and so we got to the meeting. We went in the kitchen, we had this big party for friends. We had dinner and just literally as soon as it's over, I'm like, sweetie, I got to give this gift to you, and I got down on one knee and I said, sweetie, it's been 25 years, which or me again, and opened up the the box of earrings and everything else and she was super excited but my problem was I had. I didn't do any of the setup. It just fell flat on its face and so she was super, super excited. The kids were excited, but I'm like, you know, I didn't do that. When I proposed to my wife, I'm.

Speaker 1:     04:25         When I proposed to my wife, it was. It was totally planned out and I sat back and thought, you know, I see the same thing happened in storytelling and I did this, so I was a premature gift giver. Meaning I didn't provide enough value. I didn't provide enough context. I didn't allow her to get emotionally vested in the experience and share that gift is fine, but it wasn't the gift that mattered. It was more important than that was what that gift meant and I look at it now and if I was to rewind things, I would take it back and say I would've done totally different and I would basically, I would have preferred to have gone out to dinner with her and set the stage more. Talk more about our marriage, talked about how excited I was and how much I loved the our trip to Paris and how much I loved our, our anniversary time and our, our, our, our time together and really built the emotion up and been able to reflect more on the feeling of the last 25 years.

Speaker 1:     05:25         Because it's not the. It's not the jewelry that mattered, it's what the jewelry represented and I see the same thing take place so many times in storytelling and it was one of the things that happened just recently. I was real excited to podcasts and guys, if you've listened to it, it was with Roland Frasier who's a dear friend of mine and I was just super excited the day I was super excited to have a on and I got done with the introduction and I will sit there and look at that and I'm like, okay, rolling. I just totally screwed all that whole introduction up. I mean I just, I was like a little kid. I just, I spoke fast and just out of control and yeah, there was a lot of enthusiasm, excitement there, but I'm like, I didn't give him the value of all that he'd done and all the credit that he deserved to actually in recognition of who he was.

Speaker 1:     06:09         And so I've thought about that and then I thought last night about the crazy mishap I had as far as presenting this jewelry to my wife going, you know, I need to be better at, at helping people experience more of the emotion. Because for me, the craziest thing is I'm not real big on, on gifts, but I love experiences. I mean experiences to me are like nothing that is more because I think people will remember the experience and I got so frustrated I laid in bed last night going, man, I totally screwed that up and I've thought a lot about it this morning. And I see the same thing happen in storytelling where people get so excited to tell the story that they don't let the person experienced the journey and the epiphany to get to that level of emotion to where they can appreciate the actual event and the story itself.

Speaker 1:     07:01         And so as I'm looking at this next year, one of the main things that I'm really trying to focus on, the main things I'm trying to spend time on is to really help people and help myself actually get involved in telling a story with emotion. And there's a lot of preframing the tasks that take place. There's a lot of setting the stage. You have to provide time, you have to let people actually feel the emotion. It's not the facts, it's not the stats, it's not the data that matters. It's the emotion that's with it. So just like with my wife, it wasn't the gift that meant as much. It's the emotion of 25 years of marriage of what that gift represented. And I really wish I'd taken a step back and said, all right, what I really need to do is presented in a way that validates her sacrifice, the validates her hard work that validates the love, the trial, the journey, the pain, the tears of time, and also the laughter and the fun and the excitement.

Speaker 1:     08:00         And again, some. I don't know if you've ever had that experience. Unfortunate happens to me too often where I'd like to rewind it, go back in time and say, all right, let me read you what I wish I could just have like a a Redo and undo button and let me just replay that one one more time because I would totally do a different. Fortunately my wife loves me and it's all good, but again, it was premature giftgiving. It's premature storytelling where you tell the story so fast that no one is able to really appreciate the emotion of it. It's one thing that I love as I've, as I've seen Russell tell stories, how much time he allows for people to feel and it's one of the main things I'm really spending time on this next year is helping others feel what I'm feeling kind of goes back to.

Speaker 1:     08:49         It's like with my wife, she's totally stressed right now with Christmas, trying to make the experience of the holidays magical for every single member of our family and if I would just allow and and not just listen to her, but more importantly feel what she's saying. I would be able to help her that much more and so I'm really trying to listen more with feeling to tell stories with more feeling and you're gonna see over the course of this next year on my podcast, my facebook lives where, um, a lot of that feeling is going to come because I'm going to dive back into some of my past experience that weren't very pleasant and to actually try to really feel those experiences and tell those in a way that provides emotional connection and emotional feeling for those who are listening. Um, that's where the, that's how an epiphany takes place where if you, if you don't allow a person to experience the emotion that you were experiencing, there's no way for them to actually appreciate the bridge that you went across to get to the other side, to then be excited to bring them to that.

Speaker 1:     10:03         The whole key here is you've got to allow people that opportunity to feel and something I'm really going to spend a lot of my time working on. And so this is more of a podcast more for me than for you guys probably is to really tell stories in a way that helped people elicit and to feel more so that at the end there's such an impact where that person wants to, they've now experienced for themselves what you went through and now they want to do whatever it is that you're going to do next. So with that said, I hope you guys enjoy the holidays. I again, hopefully that your, your gift giving experiences aren't a. weren't like mine just was a. I got too excited. But anyways, just know how much, uh, again, I, this time of year, I, I spent so much time reflecting and I hope you know how much I appreciate taking the time to listen to. It really does mean a lot to me having an amazing day and we'll talk to you guys soon.

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