Ever caught yourself having a meltdown or giving your partner the cold shoulder because you're feeling insecure? (Been there, done that!)

In this follow-up to our conversation with Dr. Brittany McGeehan, we're going in hard on a game-changing truth: the only person who can't abandon you is yourself.

Get ready for some fiery talk about self-trust, validation-seeking, and why your inner child needs a time-out from running your relationships.

Key Takeaways

Why are you testing your partner with "abandonment scales" that don't exist
How suppressing emotions is actually self-abandonment in disguise
The truth about external validation and why it's like trying to fill a leaky bucket
Why building self-trust doesn't mean becoming a totally independent island
How to stop abandoning yourself (even when you're feeling super insecure)

Memorable Quotes

💭 "Self-trust is the belief that you can rely on yourself to make decisions, handle emotions, and honor your needs"

Signs You Might Be Abandoning Yourself

Ignoring or suppressing your true feelings
Saying "yes" when you really mean "no"
Overworking to prove your worth
Putting others' needs first (even when you're running on empty)
Tolerating disrespect to keep the peace

Your Self-Trust Action Plan

Notice when you're seeking external validation
Challenge your black-and-white thinking
Start honoring your emotions
Practice setting boundaries
Trust that you can handle whatever comes your way

Episode Timeline

00:00 Welcome & Episode Recap
02:33 The Only Person Who Can't Abandon You
07:15 What Would Complete Self-Trust Feel Like?
12:45 The Closet Meltdown Story
18:30 Understanding Self-Abandonment
25:45 Building Real Self-Trust
29:20 Final Thoughts & Resources

Resources Mentioned

Free Self-Discovery Workshop (Registration is Open!)
Last Week's Episode with Dr. Brittany McGeehan (Episode 100)

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