How to Know If You Really Love Someone, If You’re Settling, & Navigating Conflict in Your Relationship with Emily & Flynn
Feb 14, 2024
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Emily Sudlow, business partner and girlfriend of the host, discusses relationship dynamics and personal growth. They explore settling in relationships, validation, and finding love. The conversation touches on becoming the best version of yourself, navigating conflict, and using it for growth. It delves into recognizing genuine love and understanding when you are just comfortable in a relationship.
Settling in relationships stems from seeing certain traits as essential for personal growth, hindering self-fulfillment.
Conflict in relationships should be embraced as a tool for uncovering unconscious wounds and personal growth.
Deep dives
Recognizing the distraction of settling in relationships
In relationships, people often settle because they see certain traits in their partner that they believe are scarce and necessary for their own personal growth. However, clinging on to these traits prevents them from becoming who they truly want to be.
Identifying the importance of the entire picture in relationships
Creating a list of desired traits in a partner can be misleading, as it may not consider the underlying qualities that are truly important for a meaningful connection. Good communication, for example, may not equate to emotional intimacy. It is crucial to go beyond superficial characteristics and understand the deeper aspects that foster a genuine bond.
Realizing the need for self-transformation in relationships
Placing unrealistic expectations on a partner to fulfill all the traits on a list can hinder personal growth. Instead, individuals should focus on becoming the person they want to be themselves, rather than seeking someone else to embody their desired qualities.
Using conflict as an opportunity for growth in relationships
Conflict in relationships can be valuable if approached with the intention of personal growth. Rather than avoiding or suppressing conflict, it should be seen as a chance to uncover unconscious wounds and transform them. Resolving conflicts in a supportive and constructive manner strengthens the relationship and enhances the journey of becoming the best versions of oneself.
In this episode, my guest is my business partner and girlfriend, Emily Sudlow and this might be the most important relationship podcast you’ve ever heard.
Emily and I explore how to know if you are settling in a relationship, see others’ traits as scarce resources, the honeymoon phase, and finding validation from relationships.
We also discuss how to know if you really love someone, how to know if you love your life, becoming exactly who you want to be, how a relationship can accelerate finding your unconscious wounds, pushing yourself to be the best version of yourself, navigating conflict in a relationship, how often couples fight in a relationship, and how conflict can turn into a container for growth.
This conversation offers a deep dive in discovering if you are settling in a relationship, how to become the highest version of yourself, using conflict for growth and understanding what it means to know if you are actually in love or if you are just comfortable.
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