Lael Stone, author of “Raising Resilient and Compassionate Children”, discusses helping children deal with change. She emphasizes creating pictures and talking through what will happen, viewing change through the child's lens, and using play to explore changes. Strategies include empathy, communication, and empowering children during transitions.
Prepare children for change by creating visual aids and discussing upcoming events to reduce anxiety about uncertainty.
Approach change from a child's perspective, show empathy, and understanding to help them navigate transitions with ease.
Engage children in play to help them process and adapt to changes, allowing them to explore new scenarios with their toys.
Deep dives
Creating Pictures for Better Understanding
A way to ease children into change is by creating pictures and discussing what will happen, who will be there, and how things will look. This approach helps children who thrive on information to reduce anxiety about uncertainty.
Viewing Change Through Your Child's Eyes
Viewing change from a child's perspective, even simple transitions like visiting a new playground, can seem daunting. Responding with empathy and understanding rather than trying to downplay the situation can help children navigate change with more ease.
Using Play to Process Change
Children process changes through play, allowing them to explore new scenarios with their toys. By engaging in play that mirrors upcoming changes, parents can help children understand and adapt to the new situation.
Restoring Power Through Games
Change can make children feel powerless. Implementing power reversal games, where children can take control or make decisions, can empower them during periods of change, helping them feel more secure.
Sharing Worries to Provide Comfort
Adults should take care of their own emotional needs when faced with change to provide a stable and comforting environment for their children. By addressing their worries with others, adults can approach transitions with a more centered and reassuring presence.
Why can change be so unsettling for our toddlers? I mean, change up the snack crackers and you may have a major crisis on your hands. On this episode of My New Life, Jessical Rolph hosts Lael Stone, author of “Raising Resilient and Compassionate Children”. Never is our resilience put to the test more so than in the face of change.
If you and your family are changing things up — be it a new home, new caregiver, or a new school, Lael will help you navigate what can be tricky terrain with your child. In addition to her work as a parent educator, she is a mother of three. You can find Lael @laelstone.
Takeaways:
A great way to ease children into a big change (or even a smaller transition) is to create pictures and talk through what’s going to happen, who’s going to be there, and how it’s going to look. For those children that thrive on information, this dispels some of the anxiety around uncertainty.
Make an effort to view change through the lens of your child. Even something like a visit to a new playground can feel scary. Meet their concerns with empathy and compassion rather than attempting to fix the situation, or justify why it’s no big deal.
Children process what’s going on around them through play. Help your child to explore changes by creating a similar scenario with their favorite toys. It’s a great time to ask questions like: How do you think Teddy is feeling about moving to a new home?
Change often makes children feel powerless. Try a power reversal game to restore some sense of power. This is a game where your child gets to be faster or stronger or know more than you do!