Unmasking Deception: Insights on Betrayal Trauma

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Oct 18, 2023

The podcast delves into the topic of betrayal trauma, discussing how it can come from parents or romantic partners, and how it affects self-esteem and relationships; Licensed therapist Kristen provides insights and guidance on navigating relationships after addiction and betrayal; Communication and seeking help are emphasized, along with the importance of intentionality and having a plan; Stabilizing the home environment and setting boundaries is highlighted before trauma treatment; The power of courageous vulnerability and the potential for rebuilding stronger relationships are explored; The universal benefits of the 12 steps are discussed, dispelling misconceptions and highlighting their relevance for non-addicts.

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Introduction

00:00 • 2min

Navigating Sobriety in a Relationship

01:51 • 5min

The Importance of Effective Communication in Relationships

07:11 • 21min

Importance of Intentionality and Support

28:29 • 5min

Stabilizing and Setting Boundaries

33:00 • 4min

The Power of Courageous Vulnerability

37:08 • 15min

Insights on the Power of the 12 Steps and Their Misconceptions

52:34 • 3min

Betrayal Trauma - If a parent or romantic partner violates your trust, you may experience betrayal trauma. Any betrayal can cause emotional distress and that trauma may affect your self-esteem, emotional health, and relationships with others. Psychologist Jennifer Freyd first introduced betrayal trauma in 1991. She described it as a specific trauma that happens in key social relationships where the betrayed person needs to maintain a relationship with the betrayer for support or protection. Most people with addiction struggles also have trauma and most people, in general, have some traumas. What is interesting in betrayal trauma is that we have it because of our parents and partners, but we also cause it in our active addiction. Lying, deceiving, hiding details about life and addictions, these are all causes of betrayal trauma. Kristin Snowden is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and one of her specialties is addiction recovery. She's going to shed some light on betrayal trauma, what it looks like, and what to do about it. Some interesting facts you'll hear about betrayal trauma are: It can come from a parent or other childhood caregiver it can come from a romantic partner you may be willing to accept the betrayal for your sense of safety and security The struggle is real, my friend! And this topic hits close to home. We also touch on all the fears our partners experience when sobriety comes into our lives and how to change the disruptive stories you tell yourself about what will happen or how things will end. This episode is full of lightbulb moments that will change how you view your relationships, and yourself. Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Book A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/call Kristin Snowden YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/KristinSnowden Sober Retreat Bali 2024: addictionunlimited.com/bali Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts “I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!