Knowing Her Sexually Sexual Trauma, the Goal of Sex, and the Value of Afterglow, with Matt Schmidt
Jun 9, 2023
In this engaging discussion, Matt Schmidt, the founder of Intimate Covenant and a marriage ministry host, dives into the complexities of sexual trauma and its effects on relationships. He shares personal insights on navigating his wife’s past trauma with patience and support. Matt argues that the true purpose of sex lies in connection and emotional vulnerability, rather than mere physical acts. He also emphasizes the significance of afterglow for deepening intimacy, revealing how post-coital moments can enhance relational bonds.
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How Their Ministry Started
- Matt and his wife Jen began marriage ministry after her childhood sexual trauma disrupted their early marriage and they sought help together.
- They turned lessons learned into a Bible study, retreats, a podcast, and speaking events to help other couples.
Be A Safe Supporter Not A Fixer
- Do not try to fix your spouse; provide a safe, pressure-free place for her to pursue professional healing.
- Supporters can help or hinder, so prioritize patience and creating safety over quick solutions.
Trauma Shapes The Whole Marriage
- Sexual trauma seeps into many parts of a marriage beyond the obvious sexual moments.
- Naming and processing those roots is necessary before many relationship conflicts can resolve.