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The Hidden Scorecard | Why Keeping Tabs Destroys Trust in Marriage | The 'NEW' Marriage | Ep356

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Dec 29, 2025
Discover the hidden scorecard in relationships that tracks efforts and mistakes, silently eroding trust and intimacy. Explore how this unhealthy habit turns love into competition and breeds resentment. The hosts reveal the dangers of keepings lists and defensiveness, encouraging couples to shift towards honest feelings and gratitude. Learn actionable steps to rebuild trust and create a peaceful home environment. This candid discussion provides a roadmap for overcoming adversity and fostering genuine connection in marriages.
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ADVICE

Stop The Scorecard Habit

  • Do stop keeping score and making lists that grade your partner for every perceived shortcoming.
  • Do replace negative scorecards with direct asks and clear accountability instead of weaponizing past mistakes.
ANECDOTE

Confession From A Former Scorekeeper

  • Cass admits he was once the "king of keeping score" and used lists to shame and defend himself.
  • He describes tearing Kathryn down with lists to build himself up and later having to bring her back to life.
INSIGHT

How Scorekeeping Kills Trust

  • Scorekeeping converts love into competition and removes safety because partners can't trust positive intentions.
  • When love is constantly measured, gestures feel like manipulation, not genuine affection.
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