8. Survivors, Loneliness, and a Cucking Treat

CW for the Episode: Assault–please skip to 16:14 to go straight to question 2.

Lina starts this week's episode by talking about how trauma informs Kink and BDSM, and the healing aspect that can come along with it. But big spoiler alert, there is no magical cure for trauma. And that's okay! In fact, your trauma doesn't need to even be involved with your Kinkiness at all if you so choose. Next up, Lina covers what loneliness can look like in BDSM and the self-shaming tendencies we have towards figuring out our roles and desires–and provides validation in having likes and dislikes and how to address those needs as submissives. And finally, hear Lina wax on the poetics of Cucking and what it can bring to the Kinky table, especially as a potential bridge between monogamy and non. And what to do about that lil thing called jealousy and how best to address it in moving towards threesomes, cucking, and/or ENM together.

Esther Perel's Mating in Captivity: https://bookshop.org/a/14567/9780060753641

Ethical Slut: https://bookshop.org/a/14567/9780399579660

Dan Savage: https://www.thestranger.com/savage-love/2020/01/14/42559563/savage-love

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