Shyness is a learned behavior that can be unlearned by changing your mindset.
Progressive desensitization and gradually exposing yourself to social situations can help overcome shyness.
Deep dives
Overcoming the mindset of shyness
To overcome shyness, you must first change your mindset. Recognize that you are not inherently shy, but that shyness is a learned behavior that can be unlearned. This idea of being a 'shy type of person' is a dangerous belief that limits your potential. By working on your social skills and gradually pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone, you can make progress and no longer be identified as an introvert.
Progressive desensitization and overcoming self-image
Progressive desensitization is a process where you gradually expose yourself to social situations and learn to numb down the fear of what others think. Most shyness stems from caring too much about how you are perceived by others. By starting small, such as making friends with colleagues or engaging in casual conversations with cashiers, you can build confidence and gradually become more assertive. Overcoming shyness requires practice and going out to interact with people, even if it is uncomfortable at first.
Expand your social circle and immerse yourself in social groups
To overcome shyness, it is important to immerse yourself in groups and social situations. Joining organizations or meetup groups aligned with your interests can provide supportive and friendly environments for socializing. Toastmasters, a public speaking group, can also help to overcome the fear of speaking in front of others. Additionally, going out with friends and participating in social events allows you to practice being more outgoing. Pushing yourself to engage with people and have longer conversations, even in simple day-to-day situations, will help you develop your interpersonal skills and break out of your shell.