Trans athlete and activist Schuyler Bailar discusses the importance of believing trans youth, language matters, and the truth about trans athletes playing sports. The podcast also explores topics such as talking to students about the world, finding time away from sports, and contemplating a move for love. Get involved with Trevor project, Folx health, and Black Trans Liberation.
Embracing trans joy and allowing oneself to be loved is crucial in a healthy relationship.
Prioritizing self-love and taking risks are important in navigating relationships.
Having a supportive friend can significantly impact the lives of marginalized individuals, such as trans kids.
Deep dives
Finding Unexpected Love and Overcoming Insecurities
CJ, a recently diagnosed autistic trans femme non-binary individual, shares their journey of meeting a man on a dating app who turns out to be in an open marriage and also trans. Initially, they become friends, and CJ falls in love with him. After helping him through his divorce and forming a close bond, their dynamic shifts, and they both realize their romantic feelings for each other. CJ now faces insecurities, such as the age difference and the distance between them. They are hesitant to give up their NYC apartment and are unsure if their partner's feelings are genuine. Despite their doubts, CJ is excited and hopeful about the relationship and seeks guidance on how to navigate this new chapter.
Embracing Trans Joy and Allowing Love to Flourish
Schuyler Baylor, a guest on the podcast, emphasizes the importance of embracing trans joy and allowing oneself to be loved in a healthy relationship. They encourage CJ to challenge their resistance to ease and accept the positive feelings they are experiencing. Schuyler highlights the significance of prioritizing self-love and taking risks, acknowledging that all relationships carry some level of uncertainty. They suggest CJ keep their NYC apartment while spending a significant amount of time with their partner to explore the relationship further without feeling pressured to give up their current living situation.
Following the Path of Trans Joy and Taking a Leap of Faith
Chelsea shares her perspective, urging CJ to embrace their love story and follow the path of trans joy. She advises CJ to prioritize their own happiness and not be deterred by insecurities or doubts. Chelsea suggests keeping their NYC apartment as a safety net while exploring the depth of their connection with their partner. She encourages CJ to dive into the relationship and not sabotage it due to fear or past patterns. Ultimately, Chelsea believes that CJ has found something special and encourages them to take a leap of faith towards love and genuine happiness.
Importance of Having Supportive Friends
Having a supportive friend can make a significant positive impact in someone's life, especially for marginalized individuals like trans kids. Research suggests that if a trans kid has just one supportive adult in their life, their risk of suicide dramatically decreases. It is crucial for people to reach out and offer support to those who may be going through difficult times, as a small act of kindness can potentially change someone's life.
Managing Personal and Professional Priorities in a Relationship
In a relationship, it is important to find a balance between personal and professional priorities. When one person in the relationship is heavily invested in a particular activity or interest, it is essential to have open and honest communication about both individuals' needs and expectations. Finding compromise and making time for shared activities without neglecting personal passions is key to maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship. By setting priorities and understanding each other's perspectives, couples can navigate challenges and ensure that both partners feel valued and supported.
Trans athlete and activist Schuyler Bailar joins Chelsea in-studio to talk about why simply believing trans youth is the most important thing, why language matters, and the truth about trans folx playing sports. Then: A Florida teacher wrestles with how to talk to her students about a world outside their own. A soccer wife struggles to find time away with her husband - that doesn’t involve cleats. And a New Yorker wonders if it’s for real as they ponder a move to the countryside for their new beau.
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