LessWrong (30+ Karma) Courtship Confusions Post-Slutcon
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Nov 26, 2025 Delve into the puzzling world of flirting and courtship dynamics post-SlutCon. The narrator shares their disbelief about how bantering can lead to hookups. A comical twist unfolds as they get booted from a flirting workshop for being too witty. Discover insights on physical escalation and how dancing can leapfrog over lengthy conversations. A status game model reveals the complexities of attraction, while the role of alcohol and sleep deprivation in lowering inhibitions adds another layer. Can banter truly be just a time-killer? Tune in for the amusing exploration!
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Booted For Being Too Witty
- The narrator was booted from a flirting workshop for being 'too witty' despite not understanding how banter leads to sex.
- He left SlutCon still unable to picture how party banter translates into hookups and remained confused by common claims.
Dancing To Quick Escalation
- Multiple times the narrator moved from wanting to dance to sex with under five minutes of talking, mostly logistic details.
- Physical escalation and partner dancing proved central to his sexual success at events.
Sex As A Status Game
- The 'status game' frames seduction: men gain status by conquering sexual scarcity and women gain status by eliciting costly courtship effort.
- This equilibrium explains why men invest huge effort yet overall sexual frequency stays low in many markets.
