Singleness and marriage are both gifts from God, each offering unique opportunities. Ray has desired marriage ever since he was a young child and E.Z. always dreamed of marriage and kids, while Oscar was perfectly content to stay single for the rest of his life. Mark, on the other hand, saw his singleness as an opportunity to pursue his devotion to the Lord. Singleness isn't about waiting patiently for marriage; it's a gift from God to be used for His purpose. One challenge singles face comes from within the church, where there can be an overemphasis on marriage, leaving singles feeling sidelined. Yet singleness is meant to testify that Jesus is enough. When you're single, your focus can be fully on the kingdom of God, without the added concerns that come with marriage and family life.

Jesus, the most complete person who ever lived, was single. If you're single, use this time wisely. Seek the Lord and serve Him. Marriage is good, but there are opportunities in singleness you won't have when you're married. For example, John Wesley, a great Christian leader, remained single until he was 48. Statistically, even those who are married may find themselves single again due to death or divorce. If that happens, the same principles apply—don’t waste your singleness.

It’s better to remain single than to marry someone who hinders your ability to serve the Lord. Singleness is not a curse; it allows you to be wholly devoted to God. Mark reflects on what he would do differently if he could return to his single years: study the Bible, seek mentorship, and serve actively in the church. Many women, driven by desperation, rush into marriages they later regret, often ending up with a spouse who doesn’t share their faith. Marriage to someone who doesn’t love the Lord can be a constant struggle. Therefore, single adults should stay active in their church communities and find ways to serve.

Being single allows you to focus completely on God, and you can utilize your time in ways that will be more difficult once you're married. Ask yourself how you can serve God now, and don’t waste this season. Christ must be your everything, or you’ll create an idol out of marriage or your future spouse. Marriage isn’t a guarantee of happiness, and your spouse won’t save you from loneliness. If you put your happiness on another person, you risk turning them into a functional savior.

When you understand singleness as a gift, you'll better appreciate marriage when it comes. Be encouraged—whether single or married, there is fullness for you in the Lord. True fulfillment can only be found in Him.

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Ray Comfort
Emeal (“E.Z.”) Zwayne
Mark Spence
Oscar Navarro