Disruptors Caffeine Cast: Rejection & You (& 7 Solutions) [Business, mindset, entrepreneur, disruptors]
Jun 6, 2019
20:32
Are you feeling rejected all of the time and struggling to deal with it? Rob shares solutions for dealing with rejection and how you can turn the negative into a positive.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Solutions For Dealing With Rejection.
- Rejection is never about you, it's always about them. People don't know what you've gone through in your life, they don't know the pain, they don't know the things that trigger that feeling of rejection. They don’t know you feel you’re not worthy, alone and a failure, no one knows that stuff.
- When they reject you, they have no awareness that all these emotions. They're not rejecting you because they don't know your life circumstances, what they're rejecting is your pitch, the timing of your pitch and how you approach them.
- When you realize that rejection is never about you and always about them, you're able to not have the rejection affect the being of who you are because everyone is going to be weak and vulnerable at times.
- Everyone gets rejected. Stop feeling so alone, stop feeling like you're a failure, stop feeling like everyone else has got it easier, everyone else is more successful, it's just not the case, everyone gets rejected over and over again.
- Success is intrinsically linked and cannot be separated from rejection.
- All rejection really is, is feedback. Your emotions are humanity's feedback mechanism, your emotions are your reactions to your environment, to keep you safe, surviving and evolving. Feedback and rejection is simply an emotion.
- Rejection for you is usually a trigger, it's usually stuff that happened in your past and that’s the same for all of us. What is your trigger for feeling the pain of rejection? try and work out where it stems from and then understand that what we're doing when we receive rejection in the present, or we feel rejection, what is happening is all the history and the memory and the emotions are all being flooded in the moment. Now that's not a reflection of the moment, that's a reflection of past experiences, but remember past experiences are not real.
- Be grateful If you get rejected, that's feedback. It's far better to be rejected so know what to improve on.
BEST MOMENTS
- “If you take rejection personally feeling, I'm not good enough, I'm not worthy, but it's never that you're not good enough, or you're not worthy, at the very worst is your pitch wasn't good enough, your product wasn't good enough, your timing wasn't worthy, that's the worst it's going to be.”
- “You are not your mistakes, you are not your failings, you are not a failure, you just fail sometimes.”
- “You are not the things you do wrong, you are not the things you don't achieve and the things you don't succeed in, you are not those, they are just daily events.”
- “If you don't risk anything, you risk everything.”
- “Avoiding rejection at all costs probably keeps you too safe and therefore you will have a result on your success and your progress negatively.”
- “There is no failure, there is only feedback.”
- “Rejection prepares you for the next level.”
- “Do not make this mistake of thinking that critics are haters, critics are caring individuals who have taken the time out of their day to give you feedback to help you improve.”
[Business, mindset, entrepreneur, disruptors]
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ABOUT THE HOST
Rob Moore is an author of 9 business books, 5 UK bestsellers, holds 3 world records for public speaking, entrepreneur, property investor, and property educator. Author of the global bestseller “Life Leverage” Host of UK’s No.1 business podcast “Disruptors”
“If you don't risk anything, you risk everything”
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