Ulland and Jo discuss dialects and parenting, emphasizing the contradictory nature. They explore 'yes and' thinking, the importance of perspectives and effective communication, therapy in bridging emotional miscommunication, and vulnerability in improv to build trust.
'Yes and' thinking in therapy can validate perspectives and build relationships.
Recognizing the gap between intention and perception in communication is crucial for fostering understanding and curiosity.
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Understanding the concept of yes and in therapy
The podcast episode explores the concept of 'yes and' in therapy and how it relates to building trust and understanding. The hosts liken therapy to improv, where the rule is to never say no but always participate fully. They discuss how 'yes and' can be a powerful way to validate someone else's perspective and build relationships. They emphasize the importance of curiosity, vulnerability, and active participation in therapy sessions.
The gap between intention and perception
The hosts delve into the gap between intention and perception in communication, particularly in the family setting. They discuss how intentions can sometimes be misunderstood, leading to conflicts and misunderstandings. They highlight the significance of recognizing that experiences are individual and subjective, and that there might be a disconnect between how someone intends something and how it is received. They stress the need to bridge this gap by fostering understanding and curiosity.
The role of vulnerability in effective communication
The hosts touch upon the importance of vulnerability in effective communication, focusing on how it can impact interactions within a family. They note that vulnerability goes beyond emotions and encompasses discussions about internal thought processes. They highlight the challenges of being vulnerable and communicating in a genuine way, particularly in a society that lacks formal training in vulnerable communication. They suggest that vulnerability plays a crucial role in therapy and encourage further exploration of the topic.
Applying 'yes and' in therapy sessions
The hosts provide examples of how they apply the concept of 'yes and' in therapy sessions. They share instances where they use humor and irreverence to navigate difficult moments and foster connection with their patients. They emphasize that 'yes and' is not about rejecting or changing someone's perspective, but rather about participating fully in the therapeutic process and building trust. They highlight the importance of maintaining a compassionate and non-judgmental space during therapy sessions.
Ulland and Jo review ideas that came up after a Parent University this past week regarding dialects and parenting. They discuss how dialects are often seen as more contradictory rather than as acceptance and curiosity in communication. They provide several examples of “Yes and” thinking and also discuss some nuances. Earlier Episodes of the Podcast can be found at alltherapistsarejerks.libsyn.com
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