Exploring the depth and complexities of marriage beyond romantic ideals, emphasizing mutual submission and combating self-centeredness. Importance of commitment, prioritizing the marriage relationship over other aspects of life, and being best friends. Focus on shared goals for spiritual growth and building a deep, lasting friendship as the foundation of a strong marriage.
Unselfishness is crucial for a healthy marriage, stemming from reverence for Christ.
Starting with friendship is vital in marriage, focusing on shared visions and spiritual values.
Deep oneness in marriage involves blessing each other's growth and fostering mutual journeys towards holiness.
Deep dives
The Power of Marriage: Spirit-Created Unselfishness
In Ephesians 5:21, the passage emphasizes the crucial role of spirit-created unselfishness in marriage. Dr. Keller highlights that unselfishness, born from reverence for Christ, is the cornerstone of a healthy marriage. This selflessness leads to serving one another, prioritizing the other's needs, and fostering a deep connection beyond mere peaceful coexistence. The main challenge in marriages, as discussed, stems from self-centeredness, which the spirit of God aims to eliminate.
Choosing a Spouse: Starting with Friendship and Common Vision
The podcast emphasizes the significance of beginning the search for a spouse with friendship. Rather than focusing solely on romantic attraction, the advice is to seek a deep friendship rooted in sharing common visions and spiritual values. Understanding marriage as a covenant and permanent commitment, the importance of mutual journeys towards a shared horizon is highlighted for potential couples.
Friendship in Marriage: Deep Oneness and Mutual Growth
Deep oneness in marriage is characterized by a mutual journey towards holiness and growth. Friendship within marriage is emphasized as a profound relationship built on consistent presence, honesty, vulnerability, and continual affirmation. The concept of 'blessing' is presented as affirming each other's potential and facilitating personal growth, standing as the ultimate goal of companionship in marriage.
Avoiding Unequal Yokes: The Importance of Shared Faith
The podcast stresses the essentiality of a shared faith in marriage, citing biblical principles of friendship and oneness. Marrying a non-believer is discouraged due to the inability to establish complete vulnerability and understanding, crucial for a fulfilling relationship. By prioritizing Christ as the center and foundation, the podcast underscores how shared faith enhances mutual growth and fosters lasting companionship.
Conclusion: Applying Christ's Friendship in Relationships
The final segment highlights how Christ's example of friendship serves as a model for all relationships, especially marriage. Drawing from Jesus' friendship teachings, the podcast encourages replicating His consistency, honesty, vulnerability, and affirming love in all relationships. The ultimate goal is to build friendships that reflect the profound oneness and mutual growth found in a divine union, culminating in shared holiness and deep understanding.
I’m tired of listening to sentimental, slurpy talks on marriage during weddings and in Sunday school and in sermons. They have about as much depth and reality to them as a Hallmark card. The fact is, marriage is many things—in fact, it’s everything except slurpy and sentimental.
Marriage is glorious: it’s a burning strength and joy. Marriage is hard: it’s blood, and it’s sweat, and it’s tears. It’s defeats, and it’s victories. It’s almost everything except sweet.
We’re in a series on the Bible’s view of marriage. We’ve already looked at the power, the definition, and the priority of marriage. We look now at 1) the great purpose of marriage, and 2) what this purpose means in practicality.
This sermon was preached by Dr. Timothy Keller at Redeemer Presbyterian Church on September 8, 1991. Series: Marriage. Scripture: Ephesians 5:21–33.
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