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Stefani Goerlich, professor, author of “Sprinkles,” & a sex therapist, discusses her journey into the field of sexuality, working with students & patients. In this conversation, Stefani Goerlich discusses that while kink & BDSM have become more mainstream in recent years, many "vanilla" people still find the concept off-putting or disturbing. However, consensual exploration of power dynamics & erotic psychology can profoundly deepen intimate connections in relationships. She shares a powerful story of helping a couple navigate the difference between consensual kink & abuse.

TAKEAWAYS

Understanding what is normal and healthy in relationships requires unlearning societal biases.
Consensual kink and BDSM can be misunderstood and stigmatized, but it is important to differentiate between consensual kink and abuse.
Maintaining boundaries as a sex therapist is crucial to ensure the therapeutic relationship is not influenced by personal experiences or biases.
Exploring & striving to understand each person’s erotic identity is important for couples with differing desire levels.
When couples want to open their relationship, clarifying their motivations is important.
Partners supporting someone with trauma should reframe their role as holding space and providing support.

EPISODE LINKS

Stefani's Podcast - Securing Sexuality
Stefani's - Securing Sexuality Conference
Stefani's - Counseling Services
Stefani's Book - The Leather Couch
Stefani's Book - Sprinkles on Top
Stefani's Book - Kink Affirming Practice
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