Sometimes it’s easy to become our own biggest obstacle, especially when life feels heavier than usual. During perimenopause, many of us unknowingly pile on extra responsibilities, adding weight to our daily lives that slowly drains our energy. This episode uncovers what I like to call “picking up the monkey”—a powerful way to look at how taking on unnecessary burdens holds us back. I'll walk you through why we tend to do this and how to start breaking free, making room to truly prioritize ourselves.

You know that feeling of constantly putting others first, almost like your life revolves around everyone else’s needs? We’ll also talk about “satelliting” around others and how it pulls us away from what we truly need. I'll help you recognize when decision fatigue kicks in, making it harder to prioritize yourself, and offer some easy ways to redirect that energy. It’s all about finding small shifts to lighten your load and protect your well-being.

And if you’re looking for something extra to make this journey smoother, I’ve got my Estro Balance Mastery formula, crafted to tackle those frustrating symptoms like brain fog, hot flashes, and sleepless nights. Plus, take my FREE Hormone Quiz to get a clear picture of what’s happening inside your body—because understanding your hormones is key to finally feeling like yourself again!

Key Timestamps:

[04:19] Traditional gender roles.

[07:43] Reflecting on energy exchanges.

[11:17] Carrying burdens for others.

[15:59] Decisions made for others.

[19:57] Balancing self-care and responsibilities.

[23:44] Unresolved issues and worry.

[24:39] Self-sabotage in daily life.

[28:47] Encouraging responsibility and growth.

Memorable Quotes:

"Think about how much energy you put out in the world, and then I want you to take a moment and think about how much energy you receive back." — Betty Murray

"We worry about what we tolerate. So the things you sit at night about and you worry about are things that in most cases you need to do something about that you aren't doing… there is something that you're tolerating that you worry about. So imagine how many times those things circulate in your brain and how much that chews up your willpower and decision-making capacity." — Betty Murray

Links Mentioned:

Estro Balance Mastery (Get 10% off first order): https://metabolicblueprint.com/pod10/

Free Hormone Quiz: https://bit.ly/3wNJOec

Connect with Betty Murray:

Living Well Dallas Website: https://www.livingwelldallas.com/

Hormone Reset Website: https://hormonereset.net/

Betty Murray Website: https://www.bettymurray.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BettyAMurrayCN/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bettymurray_phd/

Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com

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