Narcissistic Mothers lack empathy and use others as do other narcissistic abusers but what differentiates them is their disguise as being a super mom and having it all together when in reality they are disrespectful, abusive, and hurtful to those close to them behind closed doors. Narcissistic mothers force their family to serve their needs and will rage at and devalue those who dare not comply. They will act fun and caring in public but behind closed doors will devalue and humiliate those same very people. If you experienced having a narcissistic mother it is imperative to see them for who they are and not the idealized version of them that we cane to believe and were forced to see her as. In addition, it may be necessary to get distance and even cut ties in order to heal and become your own individual.