Life Check Yourself

Life Check Yourself Episode 468- “7 Behaviors That Destroy Relationships” with Kristal De Santis

Sep 25, 2024

43:00

In this week’s episode, Marni welcomes Kristal De Santis to the Life Check Yourself studio. Kristal is a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of Strong: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man, she shares insights on masculinity, partnership dynamics, and how men can thrive in today’s shifting societal expectations. They explore the complexities of modern relationships, particularly focusing on the evolving roles of men and women. Together, the duo uncover actionable strategies to build stronger, healthier relationships based on mutual understanding and growth.

Redefining Masculinity in Modern Relationships
The Importance of Emotional Safety in Love
Effective Conflict Resolution and Repair Strategies

The Evolution of Masculine and Feminine Roles in Relationships [00:08:35]

In today's relationships, both men and women are navigating an unprecedented level of freedom. With traditional gender roles evolving, the challenge becomes making intentional choices that benefit both partners without falling back on outdated expectations. The key is creating new, shared rules for the partnership while respecting each other's individuality.

"The paradox of choice is that when everything is on the table, how do you make the right choice for yourself?"

Love Languages Reimagined: Building Emotional Safety [00:23:45]

Emotional safety is foundational to a successful relationship. While love languages help communicate affection, they only work if partners feel secure. Safety allows individuals to express their needs freely, and without it, no amount of acts of service or physical touch can stabilize the relationship.

"If you don’t have safety, the relationship will still be on shaky ground."

Communication Breakdowns and Repair Conversations [00:47:20]

When conflicts arise in a relationship, repairing the emotional damage requires time and effort. Quick apologies aren’t enough; true healing involves understanding the other person's perspective and demonstrating accountability. Deep-seated issues may need repeated conversations, but each discussion can strengthen the bond and help both partners grow.

"The deeper the wound, the more stitches you need."

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