What’s the biggest lesson you learned this year?

What advice would you give yourself a year ago?

In this special birthday reflection, Jay opens up about the most meaningful lessons he’s learned over the past year. Rather than focusing on milestones or achievements, he dives into the deeper truths that shape how we love, pay attention, and grow within. From realizing that overhelping can sometimes hold others back, to seeing how saying “no” can be one of the most honest forms of respect, Jay invites us to rethink the way we set boundaries, show compassion, and care for ourselves and others.

Jay reminds us that real wealth isn’t measured in material success, but in how we direct our attention, and how often we waste it on distractions, resentment, or things we can’t control. He explains how fulfillment comes from aligning our choices with our values, letting go of envy and ego, and prioritizing kindness over recognition. Jay also shares why people change more when they feel understood than when they’re corrected, and why the endings of our experiences often matter more than the beginnings.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Say No With Confidence

How to Align Success With Your Values

How to Let Go of Ego and Envy

How to Learn From People Who Frustrate You

How to Listen Instead of Correct

Growth is not about perfection, it’s about choosing small, intentional steps each day that move you closer to the life you truly want. The lessons we learn through mistakes, struggles, and reflections are not setbacks, but stepping stones that shape our strength and clarity.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:19 10 Lessons I’ve Learned Over the Past Year

02:34 Lesson #1: Helping Less Can Actually Help More

09:46 Lesson #2: Saying No Is a Complete Sentence

17:19 Lesson #3: The Power of Where You Place Your Attention

20:22 Lesson #4: Success Without Alignment Feels Empty

24:20 Lesson #5: Frustration Is Your Greatest Teacher

25:40 Lesson #6: Kindness is Remembered Longer Than Achievements

27:59 Lesson #7: People Change When They Feel Understood

30:10 Lesson #8: Endings Matter More Than Middles

33:31 Lesson #9: Create Intentional Moments

33:49 Lesson #10: Manage Endings in Conflicts

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