Dating Beyond Borders Ep. 70 - Truth About Dating in Indonesia: Tinder, Ta'aruf and Taboos (ft. Coach Anez)
May 13, 2025
Delve into the unique dating landscape of Indonesia, where modern apps like Tinder meet traditional values. Discover the complexities of ta'aruf, the Islamic courtship practice gaining popularity, and the taboo topics that often remain unspoken. Hear personal anecdotes that reveal the clash between cultural expectations and individual desires. Explore how online dating is evolving from casual hookups to serious relationships, and understand the societal pressures young Indonesians face while navigating love.
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Urban Casual Dating Versus Marriage Expectation
- Casual dating is growing in Indonesian cities, but marriage remains the expected end goal for many.
- Tradition and religion keep dating tied to long-term commitment despite Western influences.
Martabak As A Courtship Gesture
- Men often visit a woman's house bringing martabak to win the in-laws' hearts as a traditional courting gesture.
- Small, culturally meaningful offerings signal respect for family and community values.
From Tinder To A Viral Pitch-Deck Proposal
- Anez met her husband on Tinder and dated many people before choosing him.
- They prepared an 'agency-style' pitch deck to win her conservative parents and married during COVID in two months.