Ralph De La Rosa is a psychotherapist in private practice and a seasoned meditation instructor. His work has been featured in The New York Post, CNN, Tricycle, GQ, SELF, Women’s Health, and many other publications and podcasts. Ralph regularly leads immersive healing retreats at Omega Institute, Spirit Rock, and Kripalu. His newest book is Don’t Tell Me to Relax: Emotional Resilience in the Age of Rage, Feels, and Freak Outs.

In this episode, Eric and Ralph talk about the energy of emotions and how bringing awareness and compassion to our strong emotions creates resilience within us.

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In This Interview, Ralph De La Rosa and I discuss The Energy of Emotions and…

• His book,  Don’t Tell Me to Relax: Emotional Resilience in the Age of Rage, Feels, and Freak Outs 
• How we are hard-wired for anxiety, fear, and anger
• Compassion is needed for the negative energies within us
• The two kinds of suffering, the one you turn toward and the other your turn towards
• Turning away from suffering and turning towards suffering
• Allowing our anger to come up, then mindfully speak for that anger
• Bringing awareness to strong emotions
• Listening and acknowledging your inner critic helps the anger move on
• The internal family systems (IFS) model of identifying all the parts of us here
• How emotions are a living energy within you
• Giving form and naming these emotions brings clarity
• The inner critic is a defensive energy that is trying to keep us safe
• How suffering points us to compassion
• Meditation is a training in remembering (to remember)
• Setting reminders on your phone or post-it notes on the mirror are tools to bring meditation practice into our daily lives
• Radical non-pathology is viewing symptoms as your body’s way of trying to working something out and not as problems.
• Curiosity is an extension of our basic wholeness
• Self is an ecosystem, where every part works together to produce longevity and vitality
• How everything in our world is trying to reflect ourselves back to us
• Understanding that anger is intelligent and how we have the power to not pass on our anger

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Ralph De La Rosa on the Energy of Emotions, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

Ralph De La Rosa on the Mind as Your Teacher (2018)

Understanding Emotions with Susan David 

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