6 Money Dates for Married Couples with Dr. Shane Enete

Oct 20, 2025

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Money and marriage—two things God designed to bless us, but they can also be two of the greatest sources of stress. What if we turned financial conflict into connection?

Dr. Shane Enete joins us today to share six creative ways couples can build stronger relationships by having intentional financial conversations—what he calls “money dates.”

Dr. Shane Enete is an Associate Professor of Finance at Biola University and founded the Biola Center for Financial Planning. He is also the author of the book Whole Heart Finances: A Jesus-Centered Guide to Managing Your Money with Joy.

Why You Need to Talk About Money—Intentionally

Many couples avoid conversations about money out of fear. A study of 2,000 couples found that half of them were uncomfortable discussing money because they worried it would lead to conflict. The irony is that by avoiding those talks, the conflict only deepens.

On average, couples argue about money 58 times a year. But what if, instead of waiting for issues to flare up, you set aside regular time to talk about your finances together—proactively and prayerfully?

That’s the heart behind the idea of money dates. You might have to rip off the bandage at first, but we want to help couples make these conversations not just necessary—but enjoyable.

Turning Financial Talks Into Dates

These aren’t meant for finger-pointing but for course correction—a time to realign your financial goals with your values.

But also, why not make it a date? Dating can be a lot of fun if you’re intentional. So why not combine something enjoyable with something that’s often uncomfortable? When you connect in a fun environment, even money talk becomes more meaningful.

The key is consistency. Whether it’s over dinner, coffee, or a quiet walk, having a regular rhythm of financial connection helps you stay on the same page as a couple—and deepens your trust.

Money Date #1: Share Your Money Story

Every person brings a financial backstory into marriage—habits, fears, and attitudes shaped by family and early experiences.

Think of it as your money autobiography. Reflect on what you learned about money growing up, what messages you received from your parents, and how those experiences influence your decisions today.

Take your spouse out for dinner and share those stories. You’ll gain empathy and understanding for each other’s perspectives. When you know your partner’s money story, their spending or saving habits make a lot more sense.

Try this: Ask each other, “What’s your earliest memory of money?” The answers may surprise you—and bring you closer.

Money Date #2: Give Together

Generosity is one of the most unifying acts a couple can experience. Here are a few ways to make generosity a shared journey:

Set a giving goal. Track your progress as a family and celebrate milestones together.
Join a giving circle. Partner with friends or your small group to pool resources for a cause you all care about.
Create a stretch goal. As your income grows, commit to increasing your giving percentage over time.

These conversations shift the focus from money as a source of stress to money as a means of Kingdom impact.

Money Date #3: Cook the Books

This one’s both literal and figurative! Instead of going out, stay home and cook a meal together—or grab takeout for a picnic. Use the relaxed environment to talk about your budget rhythm:

Who tracks expenses?
What budgeting tools or apps will you use?
How often will you review spending?

The FaithFi app can help simplify this process. It lets couples track giving, spending, and saving all in one place—while keeping biblical wisdom at the center.

Money Date #4: Check Your Credit (at the Spa!)

Debt can carry emotional weight, so create a peaceful setting for this conversation. A spa day is perfect. It’s relaxing—and you can often find affordable day passes.

While you unwind, discuss:

How much debt do you currently carry?
How did your family handle debt growing up?
What boundaries would you like to establish regarding credit use?

This isn’t about blame. It’s about caring for each other and agreeing on a plan that both of you believe in.

Money Date #5: Number Your Days

This one takes its inspiration from Psalm 90:12: “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.”

Couples should view estate planning as an act of love. When you prepare a will, name a guardian, or establish a power of attorney, you’re doing something deeply selfless—caring for others even after you’re gone.

Spend a date identifying:

Who will serve as executor or guardian for your children?
How do you want your assets used to bless others?
What legacy of faith and generosity do you want to leave behind?

Growing Together Through Financial Stewardship

Money dates are about far more than numbers. They’re about connection, empathy, and shared purpose. When couples talk about money in ways that honor God and each other, they grow in wisdom—and unity.

When you come together around money with openness and grace, you draw closer not just to each other, but to the heart of God.

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Dr. Enete’s full article, “Six Great Money Dates,” appears in the latest issue of Faithful Steward magazine—available to all FaithFi Partners.

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On Today’s Program, Rob Answers Listener Questions:

I’m a single mom, 31 years old, raising my 5-year-old son without any child support. I’ve managed to save about $42,000 in a separate account, but now I’d like to start investing that money for his future. I want something safe and low-risk—something that will be there for him when he needs it. What would you recommend?
My 27-year-old daughter has a traditional 401(k) from her previous job here in the U.S., but she’s now working overseas. She’s planning to roll her 401(k) into an IRA with Fidelity. Since she’s still young and making this move, would this be a good time to consider one of those backdoor Roth conversions you’ve discussed before?

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