Make Your Singleness Count

I’d like to aim this exhortation towards the single adults in our congregation. I’m fond of telling singles, “Your days of singleness are numbered. Either you’ll get married, or you’ll die unmarried.” Now, before you singles sigh & say, “Thanks a LOT,” let me explain.

Regardless of how your singleness comes to an end, God instructs you to learn to number your days. Time is a form of wealth; as the old adage goes: “time is money.” So, turn a profit on having a less encumbered schedule than a married couple with 5 kids. You may not have many mouths to feed, but become the sort of person who can (and does) feed lots of mouths. For men this means choosing work over sloth, for women it means choosing hospitality over being a busy-body.

Single men, get the dilly out of your dally. You aren’t designed to sit around, waiting for the world to come to you. As God once took dust & created man, men should take the dust & create crops, inventions, websites, architecture, and so on. Don’t wait around hoping for something to happen, that’s how you become a slave (Pro. 12:24). Apply yourself to wisdom, and thus learn diligence in whatever trade you set your hand to.

Single women, waiting for the Lord to interrupt your plans by bringing a man to pursue you doesn’t equate to idleness. A wise woman builds her house (Pro. 14:1), while a foolish one is a hurricane of idle clamor (Pro. 9:13-14). Sharpen your skills of hospitality and industry. Drink deeply of the pure milk of the Word, while avoiding the fumes of feminism which has successfully poisoned generations of women to despise their feminine glory.

Our sons & daughters have been raised to extend indefinitely the folly of their adolescence. Instead of growing into hardy men, and glorious women, we see a generation of timid boys and insecure girls who don’t know the difference between their respective glories. Masculinity has been labelled a toxin, while femininity has been shamed by the lust of porn and transgender madness. We are reaping what we’ve sown, and so we must turn from the cultural folly, and this begins with singles turning to God’s Word and obeying what it says about the strength of young men and the glory of young women.

More could be said on all this, but let me simply repeat: your days of singleness are numbered, so make them count.