How To Teach Kids About Body Safety And Consent: Tricky People, Secrets, And Safety Plans
Jun 24, 2024
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Jess, an educator with over a decade of experience, dives deep into body safety and consent for kids. She emphasizes the importance of teaching children to recognize their 'uh oh feeling' and differentiate between trusted and 'tricky' individuals. Jess shares practical strategies for parents to empower children, promoting healthy boundaries and body autonomy from an early age. These crucial conversations can be approached playfully, instilling confidence rather than fear in children as they navigate complex relationships.
Teaching children to distinguish between trusted and tricky people is vital for their understanding of body safety and trust.
Creating a list of trusted adults encourages children to communicate discomfort and reinforces the importance of being heard in troubling situations.
Instilling body autonomy from an early age empowers children to reject unwanted physical affection, reinforcing their right to control their own bodies.
Deep dives
Understanding Body Safety
Teaching children about body safety involves discussing the difference between trusted and tricky people. It is important for children to understand that just because someone is a family member or a friend doesn’t automatically make them a trustworthy person. Initiating conversations around this topic can help children to identify and articulate feelings of safety versus discomfort. Rather than fostering anxiety about trust, the focus should be on recognizing and discussing the characteristics that define trustworthy individuals.
The Role of Trusted Adults
Establishing a list of trusted adults is crucial for a child's safety. Children should be encouraged to reach out to these adults when they feel uncomfortable or encounter tricky situations. If a child communicates something troubling but is dismissed by a trusted adult, it can undermine their willingness to report future issues. Hence, it is emphasized that children should keep informing other trusted adults until someone takes their concerns seriously.
Importance of Body Autonomy
Instilling the concept of body autonomy is essential from an early age. Children need to learn that it is perfectly acceptable to decline physical affection, such as hugs, even from trusted adults. Encouraging children to honor their feelings helps to affirm their right to control their own bodies, reinforcing the idea that they should never feel pressured to conform to someone else's desire for physical closeness. This understanding builds confidence in their ability to assess situations involving consent as they grow.
Early Education and Consent
Conversations around body safety and consent should begin even before children can fully understand the language used. Teaching them the names of body parts and facilitating discussions about what feels safe or unsafe lays the groundwork for deeper understanding. As they grow, these discussions can expand, helping children comprehend more nuanced concepts of consent and safety. The ongoing dialogues are vital in preparing children to navigate their social interactions responsibly and safely.
Ongoing Conversations About Safety
Body safety is not a one-time conversation, but rather an ongoing dialogue adapted as children age. Continuous discussions about body safety, consent, and trust equip children with the tools necessary to navigate various situations throughout their lives. Parents must remain approachable and prepared to have these discussions, even when they feel uncomfortable doing so. Building a strong foundation in these topics helps ensure that children can recognize and communicate feelings about safety throughout their development.
In this powerful episode, Jess and Scott discuss the importance of teaching body safety to kids of all ages.
Jess has been educating parents about these topics for over a decade, and in this episode, she answers Scott’s questions about why it’s so important for parents and kids to understand body safety and consent.
Jess explains how to help children tune into their "uh oh feeling" when something doesn't feel right and how to know the difference between trusted and "tricky" people. She provides concrete examples of what parents should teach and model, from babies to school-age children, to decrease children's vulnerability and help them feel confident in their bodies and relationships.
While the topic is serious, Jess reassures listeners that these ongoing conversations can be done in a calm, playful way that empowers rather than scares kids.
If you want more resources to teach your child about body safety and consent, check out The Body Safety Toolkit!
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