Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, counselors from RenewingUs.com, specialize in helping couples heal after betrayal. They dive into the essential role of boundaries in marriage restoration, highlighting that boundaries are supportive frameworks rather than restrictive limits. Matthew emphasizes the need for self-reflection and accountability from betraying spouses, while Joanna guides those affected on setting personal boundaries. They discuss practical strategies for establishing healthy boundaries and the importance of individual responsibility in rebuilding trust.
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Boundaries as Structures
Think of boundaries as structures, not limitations, to support personal and relational thriving.
Focus on building a supportive framework for the relationship, not just setting limits.
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Misuse of Boundaries
Boundaries are often misused to avoid difficult conversations or manipulate others.
True boundaries foster partnership, not power plays, by clarifying responsibilities.
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Initial Boundary Setting
Betrayed partners should avoid immediately setting boundaries for their spouse.
The betraying spouse must take the lead on setting boundaries and regaining self-control.
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In this episode, we invite back our friends and counselors, Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, to talk about the crucial role of boundaries in restoring marriages after betrayal, particularly sexual infidelity. Matthew shares insights from the perspective of the betraying spouse, emphasizing self-reflection and accountability, while Joanna offers guidance for the betrayed spouse on navigating emotions and setting personal boundaries.
We delve into defining boundaries as supportive frameworks rather than punishing limitations, avoiding misuse of boundaries for control, and harmonizing them to foster safety and mutual respect. The Raabsmiths highlight the importance of individual responsibility and how boundaries can create a safe space for healing and rebuilding trust.
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