This podcast discusses the science of breakups and how they impact our biology. It explores the role of oxytocin in breakups, including its connection to relationship interest, depression, and the chances of getting back together. The episode also provides tips on how to boost oxytocin without falling in love and discusses how giving gifts or making donations during a breakup can release oxytocin. It ends with a promotion of personal coaching services and Skype hugs for support.
Oxytocin levels increase during a breakup when one partner perceives less interest from the other, potentially as an attempt to salvage the relationship, but once it becomes clear that the relationship won't work out, oxytocin levels drop, leading to feelings of depression.
Boosting oxytocin levels through activities such as gazing into a dog's eyes or hugging someone can reduce stress, improve immune functioning, provide cardiovascular stress reduction, and enhance the immune system, which can help provide comfort during a breakup.
Deep dives
Breakups and Oxytocin
When going through a breakup, your body experiences physiological responses that impact how you feel. Research from the Norwegian University of Science and Technology reveals that oxytocin, also known as the cuddle chemical, plays a significant role during breakups. While oxytocin is traditionally associated with strengthening relationships, it also increases when one partner perceives less interest from the other, potentially trying to salvage the relationship. However, once it becomes clear that the relationship won't work out, oxytocin levels drop, leading to feelings of depression. Oxytocin can be boosted through activities such as gazing into your dog's eyes or hugging someone, which not only increases oxytocin but also reduces stress and improves immune functioning.
Boosting Oxytocin Without Falling in Love
To increase oxytocin levels without falling in love, a researcher in Japan discovered that locking eyes with your dog can raise oxytocin by 300%. Additionally, hugging someone can boost oxytocin levels and provide cardiovascular stress reduction and immune system enhancement. While hugging random strangers is not recommended, suggestions include signing up for a massage, which can mimic the effects of a loving embrace. Oxytocin is also known as the 'holiday hormone' as it promotes gift-giving. Donating to a good cause or giving a gift directly to someone can also heighten oxytocin levels. These actions can help stimulate oxytocin, providing a sense of comfort even during a breakup.
What happens to our brains and bodies during a breakup? In this episode, we go into the science of breakup and talk about how breakups impact our biology.