The Autism Dad Grandparenting on the Autism Spectrum: Support Without Overstepping (S8E21)
In this powerful conversation, Rob talks with Jennifer Kaufman, educator, and grandmother to an autistic child - about the often overlooked but critical role that grandparents play in the lives of neurodivergent kids. Jennifer shares wisdom from her book Grandparenting on the Spectrum and opens up about navigating her dual role as both a seasoned professional and a grandparent still learning to step back.
This episode is a must-listen for parents and grandparents alike who want to create stronger, more supportive relationships without stepping on each other’s toes.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
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Why well-meaning grandparents can unintentionally make things harder—and how to fix that
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The importance of respecting parental boundaries, even when you “know better”
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How to build meaningful relationships with autistic grandkids (especially from a distance)
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Why letting go of old expectations can make room for deeper connection
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Practical advice for grandparents navigating IEPs, meltdowns, and special routines
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Tips for handling holidays and vacations with neurodivergent kids
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The most supportive thing a grandparent can say (and what not to say)
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How Jennifer’s book can help families communicate, collaborate, and grow together
About My Guest:
Jennifer Kaufman is an educator, former autism school principal, and author of Grandparenting on the Spectrum: A Journey From Both Sides of the Desk. She’s also the proud grandmother of an autistic child and speaks regularly to grandparent groups about inclusion, understanding, and support. Learn more or connect with Jennifer at:
https://www.grandparentingonthespectrum.com
Facebook: @GrandparentingOnTheSpectrum
Find her book on Amazon: https://amzn.to/40W0L2e
About Rob:
Rob Gorski is a single dad to three amazing autistic sons and the voice behind The Autism Dad blog and podcast. A nationally recognized autism advocate and keynote speaker, Rob has been featured by CNN, ABC News, BBC, and more. He creates content that supports and validates parents of neurodivergent kids. Learn more at:
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