Slate Daily Feed How To! | Update: Losing Your ‘Virginity’ at 43
Sep 23, 2025
A 43-year-old listener shares her journey of losing her virginity, discussing her liberation from the LDS Church and the joy of a healthy, communicative relationship. The hosts dive into the public response to their popular reading episode, sharing tips on rekindling the love for books. They also engage in a lively pitch meeting, brainstorming quirky ideas ranging from singing to modesty and circus-themed storylines. It's a blend of personal growth, community engagement, and creative fun!
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Leaving Religion Before First Sex
- Elizabeth left the LDS church at the end of last year and at 43 had never had sex due to religious rules.
- She sought to date with intent and asked How To for guidance on starting sexual relationships after decades of celibacy.
Tell Partners What You Need
- Talk openly about your lack of experience and what you want before sex so partners know how to help.
- Seek someone comfortable discussing sex and not embarrassed by your inexperience.
Forbidden Framing Magnifies Pressure
- High-control religions make sex feel like a capital-T forbidden event, which warps expectations.
- Seeing sex as normal and fun reduced Elizabeth's pressure and improved her approach to dating.
