511: Does a Reformed Abuser Deserve a Second Chance? | Feedback Friday
May 21, 2021
Delve into the complexities of redemption as a former abuser seeks a second chance at meaningful connections. Explore the journey of self-forgiveness and the healing power of therapy. Navigate the trials faced by a young internet personality grappling with fame, responsibility, and public scrutiny. Plus, uncover insights about addressing religious differences in marriage and the nuances of open versus closed adoption. Each topic highlights personal growth, accountability, and the paths to healthier relationships.
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Confronting the Past
Confront your past; many people never do, thus never heal.
Acknowledge your mistakes and work to understand why you made them.
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The Role of Shame
Remorse and shame are not inherently bad; they indicate a healthy personality.
True healing involves moving through these feelings, not around them.
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Sharing Your Story
Be open about your experiences when appropriate; it helps resolve shame.
Don't try to control others' reactions; focus on your own self-compassion.
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You cringe when you think back to the toxic, abusive person you used to be, but a traumatic experience forced you to change for the better. However, it's difficult to form close friendships or seek a relationship because you feel unworthy of connection with others. Do you deserve a second chance? If so, how do you prove it to yourself and others who know about your past? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!
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You cringe when you think back to the toxic, abusive person you used to be, but a traumatic experience forced you to change for the better. However, it's difficult to form close friendships or seek a relationship because you feel unworthy of connection with others. Do you deserve a second chance? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us field this one!]
You're a 20-something "internet personality" whose bad choices (and poor judgment of character) have led you to do things you're not proud of. Sponsors and investors are dropping off, and your livelihood is in danger with no other prospects on the horizon. More than financial ruin, you fear reputational damage from which you'll never recover. You want to take responsibility for your actions; what can you do to see light at the end of this tunnel?
You and your partner have been married for 11 years and have no kids. You met at a Christian camp, you both took your faith very seriously, and you built your relationship on that faith. Fast forward 10 years, and you no longer believe in the "Christian" God. Your partner wants to raise a family, but you know you can't be the role model they have in mind without that faith. Should you work on the marriage with the possibility of greater hurt down the road, or free your partner to find someone else still aligned with their faith?
You and your partner are ready to adopt a child, but you're pondering how much involvement the birth mother should be allowed to have in this child's life. Is it selfish to apply with the stipulation that contact would only be allowed after the child's 18th birthday? Would this really be fair to the child? What option is ultimately the healthiest for all parties?
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