How to Find and Live by Your Values

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May 1, 2025

Explore the importance of personal values in shaping happiness and life satisfaction. Discover how to differentiate between fleeting pleasures and genuine fulfillment. Learn practical methods for identifying and refining your core values, and why empathy is crucial in understanding differing perspectives. The discussion highlights the impact of values on relationships, decision-making, and even handling trauma. With engaging personal anecdotes, this insightful dialogue serves as a roadmap to living a more meaningful and authentic life.

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Values Are Foundational

Values are the foundation of happiness, mental health, and meaning in life.
Living according to your values leads to motivation, clarity, and healthy relationships.

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Six Defining Features of Values

Values have six key features including being linked to emotion across contexts.
They motivate action, are ranked in hierarchies, and involve trade-offs with other values.

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Values vs Needs

Psychological needs are universal and survival-based, unlike values.
Values are strategies to meet these needs and can shift over time.

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