At Home with the Beveres The Question You Need to Ask Before Marriage
Oct 2, 2025
Join Kait and JJ Tomlin, co-founders of Heart of Dating, as they explore what it truly means to be 'equally yoked' in relationships. They delve into how to discern spiritual compatibility and the importance of patience in dating. The duo tackles the complex topic of faith as a dealbreaker in marriage, and offers insights on the concept of missionary dating. They discuss the significance of humility in partnerships and warn against codependency, all while emphasizing the need for mutual leadership and shared values for a successful marriage.
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Same Kind, Same Destination
- "Equally yoked" means being of the same kind and heading to the same destination, not identical levels of spiritual maturity.
- Shared vision and agreement on ultimate worship matter more than matching expressions of faith.
Ask Two Crucial Questions Before Engagement
- Ask yourself, "Do I see myself laying my life down for this person?" before moving toward engagement.
- Also ask, "Do I see this person laying their life down for God through seasons of life?"
Their Missionary Dating Story
- Addison describes their relationship as "missionary dating": Julie converted quickly and then spent a year apart in Bible school.
- They experienced intense early years and separation which tested Julie's commitment and spiritual growth.