Dr. Bonnie Comfort, a seasoned psychologist and marriage expert, dives deep into the complexities of long-term love. She questions the 'Happily Ever After' ideal and shares insights on communication and self-reflection as crucial for navigating relationships. Bonnie emphasizes the importance of personal happiness and individual growth alongside mutual contributions. The discussion also touches on rekindling romance, the impact of intimacy, and the emotional dynamics in partnerships, providing listeners with valuable tools to sustain love over time.
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Happily Ever After Is A Fantasy
Bonnie Comfort says living happily ever after is a fantasy and unrealistic.
She argues long-term partnership can work when expectations match reality.
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Sweet Spot To Commit
Bonnie Comfort recommends marrying around age 30 to choose more wisely.
She says 29–33 balances experience with flexibility to grow together.
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How Bonnie Starts Couples Work
Bonnie begins couples work with a joint session and then individual sessions to assess commitment.
She asks why you fell in love and what is good to widen perspective beyond complaints.
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Is long-term love still a worthwhile goal? How can you tell if a relationship is heading towards separation and not just in a slump? What role does power play in relationship satisfaction?
Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the psychotherapist and author, Dr Bonnie Comfort on The Ebb and Flow of Long-term Love
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Bonnie Comfort has been a practicing psychologist for 30 years. She has an MSW from the University of Manitoba and a PhD in psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology Los Angeles. Her novel, “Denial,” a psychological thriller from Simon & Schuster, was published in eight countries and translated into five languages. As an expert on marital therapy, she has been a guest multiple times on podcasts about marriage and has taken extensive workshops with marital and sex experts like Terrence Real, David Schnarch, John Gottman, and Marty Klein. She currently lives in Portland, Oregon, with her long-time partner, Douglas Covey, MD.
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