ParentData Presents: The Lonely Palette's "Mary Kelly's Postpartum Document (1973-78)"
Nov 28, 2024
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Tamar Avishai, producer of ParentData and creator of The Lonely Palette podcast, discusses the intersection of motherhood and art, focusing on feminist artist Mary Kelly's 'Postpartum Document.' She delves into the challenges of new motherhood, especially during the pandemic, highlighting feelings of isolation and the transformative power of artistic expression. The conversation celebrates the emotional journey of parenting, revealing how documenting maternal experiences serves as both a coping mechanism and a connection to past generations.
Thanksgiving symbolizes unity in America, paralleling the shared and universal emotions of sleeplessness and wonder experienced by new parents worldwide.
Mary Kelly's 'Postpartum Document' challenges societal perceptions of motherhood, emphasizing its significance and the emotional complexity in documenting early parenthood experiences.
Deep dives
The Unifying Experience of Parent and Holiday
Thanksgiving serves as a reminder of unity among Americans, paralleling the shared experiences of parenting. The early days of parenthood are marked by universal feelings of sleeplessness and wonder, creating a connection among parents across generations. This period of intense emotion can feel deeply individual yet transcends personal experience, linking new parents to countless others throughout history. The host emphasizes that both Thanksgiving and parenthood can bridge divides, offering moments of connection and reflection.
Coping with Isolation during the Pandemic
The pandemic introduced unique challenges to new parents, leading to feelings of isolation and disconnection. One producer shares her experience of navigating motherhood in a new city while facing the societal upheaval brought on by COVID-19. She described a sense of collective maternity leave, where the world harmonized in its disruption of routine. This commonality offered a strange comfort as new mothers recognized the shared loss of structure and time.
Reimagining Feminism through Mary Kelly's Art
Mary Kelly, a second-wave feminist artist, brought motherhood back into feminist discussions during a time when many artists distanced themselves from the concept. Her work, 'Postpartum Document,' meticulously tracked her son's early years, challenging criticism for its focus on mothering. Many in the art world initially dismissed her contributions, equating them with a return to traditional gender roles. However, her art ultimately invites society to reevaluate the significance of motherhood as a vital and profound experience rather than a trivialized, domestic one.
The Duality of Motherhood and Documentation
The act of documenting motherhood presents a paradox: it provides a sense of control while simultaneously exposing the chaos of parenting. Tracking milestones and using data can serve as a comforting framework in the unpredictable journey of raising a child. The discussion points out that while the urge to record experiences might seem obsessive, it represents an effort to hold onto fleeting moments of joy and uncertainty. Ultimately, this practice acknowledges the profound emotional landscape of motherhood, transforming mundane occurrences into cherished memories.
Today is Thanksgiving in the U.S., and after a fall – and a year – of divisiveness, could all use a holiday in which Americans are united in the task of consuming too much pie. More broadly, this holiday, more than really any other, is something Americans tend to do together. And so is parenting. Especially the beginning. The experience of having a newborn – the sleeplessness, the disconnection from reality, the wonder….it feels magical and unique, and yet also like a line connecting us to billions of people through the past.
Today on ParentData, we're featuring an episode from another podcast, The Lonely Palette, that addresses this contradiction and the many others that just go hand-in-hand with parenting. It’s made by our producer Tamar Avishai; before she came to ParentData, she created this independent art history podcast, and this episode, about a 1970s feminist artist named Mary Kelly, felt perfect for the ParentData audience. Kelly meticulously tracked every data point from her son’s birth until age five (diaper stains, scribbles, first babbles, etc.) as a way of both coping with the lack of control mothers feel, and, just maybe, to try to hold on to something so fleeting.
This episode combines Tamar's love of art history, Emily's love of data, and their shared love of parenting. Enjoy, preferably over another slice of pie.