Dads Who Lead with Thomas Pfanner

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Aug 7, 2023

Thomas Pfanner, founder of Dads Who Lead, shares his unique journey into fatherhood, becoming a father at a young age and the challenges he faced. They discuss the importance of leadership in fatherhood and how becoming a father changed his perspective on life. The podcast emphasizes the importance of parental support in navigating the challenges of unexpected fatherhood. Thomas shares his experience of telling his parents and the profound impact their support had on him. The focus shifts to the subsequent years of the father-son relationship and pivotal moments. Thomas discusses the decision to be present in his son's life and provide stability. The podcast covers family life, marriage, raising daughters, confidence, insecurity, and the importance of expectations in parenting.

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Introduction

00:00 • 4min

Unexpected Fatherhood

03:53 • 14min

The Journey of Fatherhood

17:38 • 18min

Family Life, Marriage, and Raising Daughters

35:49 • 3min

Confidence, Insecurity, and the Pyramid of Expectations

39:11 • 5min

Being the Main Character

44:28 • 18min

The Importance of Expectations in Parenting

01:02:16 • 8min

Thomas Pfanner is the Founder and CEO of Dads Who Lead which aims to help dads dramatically improve connection and leadership within their families. He is a Licensed Health and PE Teacher in Oregon Western University.

In this episode of the Dad Edge podcast, Larry Hagner interviews Thomas Pfanner, who shares his unique journey into fatherhood. Thomas Pfanner talks about how he unexpectedly became a father at a young age and the challenges he faced. They also discuss the importance of leadership in fatherhood and how becoming a father changed his perspective on life.

One of the key themes that emerges from the podcast is the importance of parental support in navigating the challenges of unexpected fatherhood. Thomas Pfanner shares his experience of telling his parents about his impending fatherhood and the profound impact their support had on him. When he told his mother about the situation, she responded with calm and support, assuring him that they would figure it out together. This simple yet powerful response gave him the confidence and reassurance he needed to face the situation head-on.

The focus shifts to the subsequent years of the father-son relationship. Thomas discusses pivotal moments and lessons learned during this time. He shares how he made the decision to move away temporarily to finish school but returned once his son started kindergarten. This decision demonstrates his commitment to being present in his son's life and providing him with stability. Thomas's wife also plays a crucial role in supporting their relationship. She recognizes the importance of proximity and encourages the move back to be closer to the child.

The father's journey demonstrates the importance of self-reflection, taking ownership of one's flaws, and adapting one's leadership style to meet the needs of their child. Through this process, the father was able to strengthen his bond with his son and provide him with the guidance and support he needed to thrive.