Protect Your Achilles Heel - Dave Woodward - FHR #295

Why Dave Decided to talk to about Protecting Your Achilles Heel: Dave has a fascination with Greek mythology and their stories, after all creating and telling stories is his job. Today he wants to help you see just how the story of Achilles’ Heel applies to your life and the concept of your ONE THING.

Tips and Tricks for You and Your Business:

(3:07) We all have an Achilles Heel in life, these can have a negative impact on our business and our performance

(5:39) Don’t let your Achilles Heel derail your business or your life

Quotable Moments:

(2:19) “What is the one thing that stops me? What is that one thing that when everything is going great and I don’t protect this one area, life is going to change.”

(2:27) “For me, I can tell you that my one ‘Achilles Heel’ is my relationship with my wife”

(3:18) “I encourage you guys to first identify what your Achilles Heel is. Then once you found it, find out how you can protect it.”

Other Tidbits:

After 25 years of marriage, Dave is still a rookie at the whole thing.

Your relationships can fuel and derail you while at work and both can be controlled and managed.

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Speaker 1:     00:00         Welcome to funnel hacker radio podcast, where we go behind the scenes and uncover the tactics and strategies top entrepreneurs are using to make more sales, dominate their markets, and how you can get those same results. Here is your host, Dave Woodward. Hey everybody. Welcome back to funnel hacker radio. No, I'm

Speaker 2:     00:19         super excited. Kind of talked about this. A story today. This is one of the things I love Greek mythology. I'm always been impressed just by the, the characters and the battle between the gods and the mortals and mortal man and an and mortal men trying to explain things. And so I've, I've always been really impressed in Greek mythology is one of things I just have always loved, but one of the stories at is probably the most popular stories throughout the entire time here is that of, of Achilles Achilles. Uh, his mom, his name was thetis and she was immortal. He's, she was married to a mortal who is king of the [inaudible]. And what happened was she wanted to be a protect her son and make him as vulnerable as possible so that he wouldn't be hurt. So thetis takes her son Achilles and grabs him by the heel and dips him into the river styx, and by dipping them into the river styx, he becomes Louis am almost immortal.

Speaker 2:     01:16         But to the point where he's completely in, there was nothing that could hurt him except for the little tiny spot where her finger and her thumb held him by his Achilles tendon or his heel as she dipped him into the river styx. That's the only cake in his armor. It's the only weakness that he has. And so again, he's involved in the Trojan war, becomes one of the major players in the war and kills hector right outside the gates of the city of Troy. And it's just really the most one of the most important players in in that whole battle. But all of a sudden the gods get angry with him and a person ends up shooting his Arrow and the Arrow is literally directed by the gods into his Achilles tendon, into his heel and kills Achilles. And it just destroys the army and everyone else because they thought this guy was completely, literally immortal, almost unstoppable.

Speaker 2:     02:12         And I've thought so much about that in my own life as far as what am I, what's my own Achilles heel? What is the thing that stops me? What is the one thing that when everything else is going great, I know if I don't protect this one area, I'm going to get life's going to change. So for me, I can tell you my Achilles heel is the relationship with my wife. There's nothing else that matters in life. Aside from my love for my wife. And the reason it's so interesting to me is literally life can be amazing. Every will be going perfect in every single part of my life, except if there's something not going well at home. It literally destroys everything else. I stopped publishing. I stopped being able to to tell stories with impact. I stopped being able to communicate the level I want because subconsciously I just know there's something I've got to fix their.

Speaker 2:     03:02         It's of the reason I mentioned this to you is every single one of us have our own Achilles heel. For some it's a relationship with someone that means the tons of them. Others, it might be their business, might be your Achilles heel, it might be your physical body, it might be whatever it is, and so I'd encourage you to kind of find out first and foremost, what is your Achilles heel and then once you've found it, how do you protect it? So for me, one of the things I've realized is the best way for me to protect my Achilles heel with my relationship with my wife is to make sure that I'm spending quality time with her. And again, if you understand the five love languages, the number one level language, my wife is time and it's not time, it's quality time. I've made the mistake many times of being there physically, but my mind is at other places and that doesn't count.

Speaker 2:     03:50         And so one of the things I'm realizing again, just celebrated 25 years of marriage and it's. I'm a real slow learner here. I guess I think I'm realizing and understanding is the importance of protecting that part in my life. And the reason I mentioned this is a we. So we just went through the Thanksgiving holidays and I didn't realize how stressful they were for her. This is the first time we've actually have had a, all of our family or our, our, our kids, everything else. And then her parents come to our place for the last 25 years we've always gone to her parents' place or to one of her siblings for Thanksgiving. We've never had it at our house. So I didn't think I thought this can be a great experience and everything will be awesome. But what I realized was I wasn't as involved, I wasn't as helpful.

Speaker 2:     04:38         I wasn't aware of the things that she needed. And so all the sudden I started seeing and feeling things disconnecting between she and I, which was impacting me and my businesses impacted me and my emotions and impacted me in so many other areas. I'm like, what is going wrong? Everything is going fantastic in my life. We have all this family come in. And what I realized was I was disconnecting with her. And so today we actually have. I planned, our kids are gone for the weekend. Uh, they all went down to Utah to spend time with her brothers and so I thought, oh my gosh, it's just gonna be this great romantic weekend. Just the two of us had planned this trip. We're going to go up to mccall and just get away. And what I realized was what was most important to her wasn't the trip or it wasn't, it was dave, listen, I literally just want to stay home.

Speaker 2:     05:21         I just want to be together. I just want to be able to focus on no one else, but just the stuff that I haven't been able to do. And so we, she literally is downstairs. I'm upstairs in our theater recording this. She's downstairs just literally having quality time just for herself. And so my only reason I mention this is as you take a look in your own business, there are things that you have to understand. There are principles that if you mess up, it literally will derail you. And for me, I know over the last week or so, I haven't been as effective in any part of my life because subconsciously I knew I wasn't protecting her. I wasn't doing the things that she needed and that is my Achilles heel, so just understand in your own business and your own life, you, everybody has an Achilles heel and you have to find out what that is and once you find out what it is, you didn't have to everything possible to protect it.

Speaker 2:     06:13         For me, I know before we moved here to boise two years ago, one of the things I used to travel a ton and one of the things we used to always do was I would make sure I'm on a quarterly basis that we would get away and it was easier when we lived in San Diego because we literally could go get away and we can go to la. We go to a place in San Diego. We go just a one night getaway and not that it's impossible here, but it's a little more difficult. And so that's why I'm starting to try to find things that. What are the things that strengthened my marriage? What are the things that strengthen my relationship with the most important person in my life? And so I'm really trying to try to pay more again, I keep kicking myself going like, Dave, you're into this thing 25 years, you should have figured this thing out yet.

Speaker 2:     06:55         I haven't. Uh, it was fun. I was sitting there talking to my son who is, this is his first year of marriage. So it's kind of a, it was like a 25 year gap between he and I on this and has had the opportunity to talk and just about marriage and relationships. And as a man, one of the things that I, I always want to do is I just, I want to solve problems. I get paid to solve problems in my personal life and my business life. It's, I'm a problem solver. And so I get very, very focused on solving problems. And so some of the things I've realized with my princess is she doesn't want me to solve those problems. What's she really wants is me just to listen, just to be present, just to just do nothing. She doesn't want her to problem solve.

Speaker 2:     07:33         She just wants to have someone who feels her pain and relates. And so there's a video I'll have a haven't posted down and a link below in the note in the show notes and if you wanted you to go to youtube and I think it's called a, it's the nail in your head and it's basically a conversation between a man and a woman and she starts off and she sits there and complaints. She goes, oh my gosh, I have this like throbbing pain. It's in my head. And it's like, it's like right between my eyes and I feel like every time I've even put on a sweater, I feel like it rips, it snags, tears and it's. I just can't explain to you how painful this is and it he's looking at her, staring at her going, I'm a sweetheart. It's because you have a nail in your head.

Speaker 2:     08:18         And she gets all frustrated. She was, why are you always, why won't you just listen? Why don't you just understand? Why don't you feel? And I'm going, I totally understand this guy. It's like literally, if I can just reach out and pull this nail out of your head, it will be all gone. That's not what she wants, what she wants us so much as to care for it to listen and I'm I'm trying to do with that better. My. The reason I mentioned this to you guys is understand in business, in life, everyone was having an Achilles heel and I just highly recommend that to take the time, especially during the holidays here, figuring out what that Achilles heel is and do everything you can to protect it. I'm, I'm going to try to do even more and over the course of this next year to make sure I protect the Achilles heel of my life, which is the relationship with my wife, which is the most important thing. So again, just realize we all have an Achilles heel. Find out what yours is and protect it.

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