Rejection Skills: How to Win or Learn

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Mar 3, 2022

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ANECDOTE

Harlan Cohen's Journey with Rejection

Harlan Cohen shares his personal journey of navigating rejection throughout his life, starting from middle school.
He used humor to deflect potential hurtful comments and struggled with feelings of inadequacy despite external successes.

ADVICE

Win or Learn Framework

Cohen's book "Win or Learn" offers a simple framework for navigating change and overcoming challenges.
The framework involves identifying wants, addressing discomfort, finding people and places, being patient, and reflecting.

INSIGHT

Universal Rejection Truth

Cohen introduces the "Universal Rejection Truth": not everyone will always respond the way you want.
Accepting this truth helps separate rejection from personal worth and promotes growth.

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Welcome to The Academic Life! In this episode you’ll hear about:

How rejection is normal and even inevitable
Skills to help you learn from and move through rejections toward your goals
Why you need to develop your capacity for patience
How asking people about their own rejections can help normalize yours
A discussion of the book Win or Learn

Today’s book is: Win or Learn: The Naked Truth About Turning Every Rejection into Your Ultimate Success, by rejection expert and New York Times bestselling author Harlan Cohen. Cohen lays the framework for identifying your wants, taking the risks necessary to pursue them, and finding success no matter the outcome. This step-by-step risk-taking experiment will guide you on a journey to understand your worth and fight for your goals—because rejection is a universal truth but not a final destination.

Our guest is: Harlan Cohen, bestselling author of seven books, a journalist, and a speaker who has visited over 500 college campuses. He loves helping people find support, happiness, hope, love, and light. He is the author of WIN or LEARN: The Naked Truth About Turning Every Rejection Into Your Ultimate Success.

Our host is: Dr. Christina Gessler, the co-creator and co-producer of the Academic Life. She is a historian of women and gender.

Listeners to this episode might also be interested in:

The Naked Roommate, by Harlan Cohen
Harlan’s TedX talk (watch TEDx talk here).
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck
The Rejection that Changed My Life by Jessica Bacal
How to Fail podcast by Elizabeth Day
The Museum of Failure website

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