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In today’s episode, we cover self development and acceptance commitment therapy with Art of Charm alumnus Nishant Patel. Nishant went through the Art of Charm bootcamp 15 years ago and went on to become a successful practitioner of Acceptance Commitment Therapy.

The stories we tell ourselves define how we see the world and interact with the people around us, so what are these stories we tell, how do you tell if they’re helping or hindering you, and how do you tell yourself better stories to achieve your dream life?

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00
How did the pickup era start?
Why was the Art of Charm started?

The origin of self-development for men – 11:49
Why do men get into self-development?
What is life like after an Art of Charm bootcamp?

How do humans see the world? – 28:06
What stories do we tell ourselves that shape how we live in this world and interact with other people?
How do you learn to be better at life?

Why should you meditate? – 43:22
What is meditation and how can it reduce your suffering?
What are the 4 practical benefits of meditation that will change your life?

We are gifted powerful minds as humans but without any documentation to explain how to use them. Self-development acts as a manual to understand and leverage the minds we are given. Men often find their way into self-development through dating because in order to have success in the world of dating, men need to be high value to consistently attract women. And becoming high value takes a lot of work. Self-development allows us to understand who we are and what we need to do to get to where we want to be.

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Resources from this Episode

The Art of Charm Bootcamp

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz

The Voice of Knowledge: A Practical Guide to Inner Peace by Don Miguel Ruiz

The Work of Byron Katie

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