How to Stop Taking Things Personally

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Feb 8, 2024

Exploring the reasons behind taking things personally, the hosts share personal anecdotes and discuss the consequences of offense-taking. Steps to stop taking things personally are discussed, as well as the importance of building self-worth. Practical advice on handling situations and developing an internal sense of security is provided.

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ANECDOTE

Argentina Story

Emma McAdam shares a story about living in Argentina.
Miscommunications and cultural differences led to misunderstandings and offense.

INSIGHT

Offense as a Defense

Taking offense is a complex relational strategy used for self-protection.
It's a defense mechanism, like fight-flight-freeze, triggered when we feel threatened.

INSIGHT

The Threat of Offense

Taking things personally involves assuming someone is attacking your self-worth.
This triggers a defensive reaction to protect your ego.

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Do you take things personally? Do you get offended easily? Do you spend a lot of time trying to figure out which person is the "Jerk"? Taking things personally is a super complex relational strategy we use to protect ourselves when we feel threatened, but it leaves us feeling isolated and dramatic. In this video we're going to learn 3 steps to stop taking things personally, and how to stop taking offense.

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