The Art of We 59. Gambling Everything For Love (Marriage Vow)
In Episode 59 of The Art of We Podcast, hosts Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer delve into the theme of "Gambling Everything for Love." In this podcast episode, the hosts explore how this commitment (which they turned into a wedding vow) represents the fullest expression of limitless possibilities in a relationship. By risking old survival strategies that may hinder genuine connection, the hosts emphasize the importance of taking bold steps for the type of love they aspire to.
The hosts reflect on their individual journeys towards seeking secure functioning partnerships, and the concept of not knowing what kind of partnership you have unless you are willing to risk bringing everything to the table. When you bring everything to the table you give the partnership – and the partners – the chance to step up to meet the opportunity. If we get stuck in thinking our partners or partnership cannot handle something, and thus we choose not to address something important, then we are inadvertently putting a limitation on what’s possible.
The hosts conclude by sharing tangible daily practices they employ to live out the vow of "gambling everything for love." These practices include envisioning the kind of partnership they desire, addressing biases about each other, and tracking moments of discomfort or unexpressed feelings. By continuously working on their relationship, the hosts advocate for a deep and meaningful connection, providing insights and encouragement for listeners to embrace vulnerability and take risks in their own pursuit of love.
Main Topics Covered:
- The details of what it means to “gamble everything for love”
- Why they turned this into a marriage vow and why it’s foundational to their partnership
- Their individual journeys that led them to this perspective
- The importance of reflecting on the potential or possibility of your partnership and not defaulting to it as a static entity
- The challenges and fears of this marriage vow and how Krista and Will work with these
- Practices to support living into “gambling everything for love” together
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